When I was much younger, 22 or so years ago, I had a few suicide attempts. What I’m dealing with now is so, so much worse. Orders of magnitude worse.
I have a cat now, though. Who would take care of my cat? I can’t leave my cat alone.
I am also alive because cat.
::hugs::
the psychological impact of a cat existing near you never fails to impress.
Plus there is that 100% percent certainty that the cat will start munching on your ears as soon as your pulse stops.
I'm sorry you're going through it.
I have the same thing with my dog. I made an attempt when I was 18, then got a dog at 20. I’m 24 now and still struggle a lot with depression, wishing the attempt had worked and all that, but would never do it now because I can’t imagine leaving my dog all by himself.
how would we be?
i'm gonna list a few things:
edit:
i am not surprised
Global warming is kind of a big one to not list...
No no no, our pocket computers becoming too much like another company's pocket computers definitely is a bigger issue! Get your priorities straight!
don't forget all the layoffs happening despite already being overworked, understaffed, and bombarded with RTO propaganda
I promise that people who are "not ok" are literally not even thinking about how Windows is getting worse. I'm a sysadmin and if windows was perfect my life would still be equal levels of shit, it's such a non issue that I'm amused you brought it up
You forgot "on track for a 10c rise by the end of the century"
And social media completely destroyed the fabric of society
Well damn, Windows gets invasive and I am DONE
Welcome to Linux. Pick a flavor.
Or all the flavors.
Elmo you are on the inside, you can get places we can't, you are trusted. Help us change things. I have a list of names.
Elmo might be on the inside….
But his puppet masters are still fisting him all the same. (Sorry for ruining childhoods.)
When an Elmo stands up for himself he gets silenced and they stitch a new one. Younger. Innocent. A naïve Elmo that doesn’t get the same education so he’s easier to control.
yeah. this may be a little better or worse depending on where you are in the planet but its grim.
i'm either wasting away at work all day every day because now bosses act like they own you too much and don't owe you for what you do so i have no time to live, or i'm a depressed and unemployed wasting away because i have no money to live.
not being able to afford anything for a seemingly infinite amount of meaningless work where you are not respected. that feeling we are just deluxe slaves working though the apocalypse. your worth is calculated based on how good of a slave you are.
capitalism enshitifying not only tech, but just about everything is getting ever more crappy expensive and disposable. we are on this hamster wheel where we need those expensive gadgets and a shitty app for everything, but they are expected to break soon so you need to pay for another and another and so on while contributing to the end of the planet because of it.
the fact we are products/cattle being monetized in all sorts of unhealthy ways and watched 24/7 by our own appliances. they use advanced psychology to control and make us submissive. dont you dare actually trying to improve things or we will use our vast surveillance network to strike you the fuck down.
culture of everyone being hyper individualistic, alienated and self centered (possibly including myself here) contrary to our nature. everyone has less and less friends, everyone is alone and we hate on eachother because of distractions.
...and the internet is now a dopamine trap instead of the beautiful place for connection and knowledge it used to be, but somehow everyone is way more dependent on it for socialization. corporations mediate our relationships and making us alone depressed and angry is more beneficial for them.
capital is literally destroying the planet, poisoning the air we breathe, turning it into an oven, killing massive amounts of life just so a handful of sociopathic people can be god-level powerful over us.
and the sheer amount of death being brought upon us by them for trivial reasons, like a convoluted way someone can have more shitty pieces of paper by murdering people everywhere around the planet.
we cant afford to start families or even be completely financially independent. life is an eternal struggle for meaningless pieces of paper (more like stupid numbers on a shitty bank computer now) and they are always finding new ways to oppress us financially and making us pay more for basic, low tech and low cost necessities that werent a problem for past generations to have.
we know we have no future, no love and no hope. we know we will starve or suffocate to death, but are being played on by the system to turn on eachother instead. the future is looking more and more like apocalypse-techno-dystopia. if it isnt that already.
and nothing we can immediatly do about any of it. people act like i am batshit insane for wanting to throw this shit away and have a revolution to remove our current kings. people immediatly try to excuse them even though their life garbage because our fear of change is probably being weaponized against us, like seemingly every single human instinct. hell, it seems some people dont even want to admit to themselves they are suffering because that would make them lazy leeches or something.
do i even need to keep going? you can tell i woke up on the wrong fucking foot today cant you?
All I can say is you're not alone and I really wish I could give you a hug right now, friend. :(
I got this favorite literary passage for you though. I think we all ought to hear it a bit more often:
Frodo: I can’t do this, Sam…
Sam: I know! It’s all wrong! By rights we shouldn’t even be here. But we are. It’s like in the great stories Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger they were, and sometimes you didn’t want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something. Even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back only they didn’t. Because they were holding on to something.
Frodo: What are we holding on to, Sam?
Sam : That there’s some good in this world, Mr. Frodo. And it’s worth fighting for.
Let's remember this was written by a fellow who survived the hellish trenches of WW1. A conflict that felt ridiculously pointless for all the bloodshed it caused.
Here we are in our own figurative trenches. We are weathering our own crisis after crisis, wondering if it's all worth it in the end. "But in the end, it's only a passing thing, this shadow."
We can't give up and give in to despair, because friends, family, people we don't even know, need us to all keep each other going. Our time will come. Don't give up on exposing this nonsense in the most loving way you can, showing people alternatives, and building the resistance to State and corporate tyranny. One changed mind at a time.
The older I get the more I can relate to this quote from Friends:
Let's see my list of anxiety:
God damnit. Am I leaving comments from alt accounts in my sleep again?
Well the first problem is the question was asked on Musk’s hellsite. No one who still uses that platform is ok.
nobody’s ok right now
This was a Twitter post, so of course no one who replied is ok, they’re Twitter users.
I'm doing ok and I hope for the best for all the rest of you who are struggling
Let’s see, I’m a month away from being $500 short on rent. Me and my wife separated this year after 3 years. I’m a single parent of a two year old. I was diagnosed with autism and panic disorder last august at the age of 35. My mom died of a fentanyl overdose in 2021, two weeks before my son was born. I’ve been dealing with work burnout after working in food/retail management during Covid, the lockdown, and customers cussing me out over Covid policies and being disgusting in general. I changed jobs, hate the current job, still burnt out. And I’ve had Covid 3 times and my lungs haven’t been the same since the first time.
I’m honestly doing OK. I’ve found my passion for my hobbies again and am feeling confident I can weather this
Sorry to dump all that on you . It’s like therapy.
Seems like you're focusing the good, more power to ya. I'd say it gets better, but that's a crapshoot, you can however learn to cope better, be well.
i like how it's some fucking revolation. Like, just look around. poke around on the internet for 10 min. Large, HUGE amounts of people have not been ok for a long time. What's sad is everyone has their fucking heads too buried in their phones and ipads to notice.
The only reason I've not killed myself is cos I've been failing for 20yrs to do it. Don't expecyt me to enjoy this fucked up existence just because I have no fucking choice but to live in it.
Life is just a different type of prison.
My random list
climate change, I live in BC and summers are literally apocalyptic, ash raining from the sky and can't even see the sun
loss of biodiversity which is plainly obvious with every passing year. Recently drove to Alaska without having to clean bugs off windshield
clearcut forest no matter where you look
never getting my own house despite "doing everything right" and well above average income
one bag of groceries is like $100
never having kids or a family, obvious reasons
no real friends since I graduated college, social media ruined everything
friends I had are priced out and are thousands of km away, or dead
housing so fucked that I have spent the last five years looking for a rental that allows a cat and still looking, I feel like if I just had a cat I would be so much happier
aging population and constantly going to funerals
various addictions I've lost control over since pandemic
cost of travel increasing exponentially so that's coming to an abrupt end too
impossible to go outside without reminder of total societal collapse, teslas cruising around on streets full of homeless people
haven't seen a doctor in years because there are none
have to go to work in 10 minutes but didn't get a wink of sleep last night or the night before it, this is probably the main reason this comment was so whiny
You're not whiny. Don't denigrate yourself the way boomers bullied you to. Your feelings and concerns obviously do matter.
Maybe later I'll edit the post with a list of things I'm grateful for because there are a lot of them, too
I've been working harder at work for a promotion. I'm not going to get it. I fucking hate work, it's not particularly hard, it's just unfulfilling and boring. I dread work every day. I would go somewhere else but hate interviewing because even for 1 job it's at least 4 interviews and tests. I can't afford to take a cheaper job. I took today off though so that's nice.
If you've been working hard at work to get a promo, it's probably time to get that promo, but externally. You'll probabaly get better pay that way too.
When putting together your resume, remeber to use the xyz format for your job successes "achieved x, doing y, with z results". This helps provide hiring managers and recruiters an idea of your performance and what type of results you can likely deliver for their team.
I'm sad there's been virtually no snow all winter and I'm in Canada. That's a bad sign. Ski slopes might as well close for good.
Same here. The mountain I frequent just put in a high speed lift, went operational Dec 24. After Christmas they got rain for at least a couple of days during break and I didn't even try skiing then.
My kids went sledding one day last season and one day so far this season. The ground barely freezes so the mice and ticks will be in force come spring.
I'm in New England so further south but I do remember the times we had snowy Christmases and could skate on the ponds. Hopefully my kids might be able to experience that but I have my doubts, I doubt I will ever see that again.
Nobody on X is doing okay. People forget that's just one of the social media and it's taken a turn for the worse. Lem is mostly chill.
Well, let's have a think about this:
With all this in mind, is it any wonder why so many aren't doing well? Pair this with people that are used to being unashamedly open on social media, especially when piggybacking on a popular post from a "celebrity", and I'm surprised that it isn't even worse...
I am legitimately trying to figure out why the fuck it is I am seemingly the only person in the world who is okay right now.
What the hell are you all doing or going through that is ruining your life, and how can I help alleviate your suffering?
how can I help alleviate your suffering?
drugs and/or guillotines
This is why I shut down reddit once and for all. It was all ragebait, sad news, doom and gloom. They posted a very, very, very horrifying, very sad news on the frontend that affected me for weeks. You know when people post "That's enough reddit for me for today"? I said "that's enough reddit for me for good!"
Reddit used to be a fun place. I legitimately went there knowing that, five minutes in, I'd be laughing my ass off.
I can only imagine Twitter must be much, much worse.
Lemmy.... hm, Lemmy is going down that path. I try to stick to my tech community subs, but every now and then I check the frontpage and, if it's not a bunch of deadhorse memes, then it's stuff like this "nobody is ok" post.
I'm almost convinced that an AI (or "dem illuminaccies") are trying to bring the mood down on everyone on the internet, so it's easier to harvest their organs or something.
I'm definitely not doing okay considering I've got an appointment at the Mayo Clinic in March... but hey, the end of this month will be my six month anniversary of not eating any solid food. So hooray!
Just to be a contrarian, I'm doing OK.
don't hate my job and make very decent money, pretty stable financially
have a lovely wife and two healthy young kids
decent apartment with plans for an energy positive house as the kids are growing
fun family friendly car, cool gadgets at home, lots of toys to play with, endless entertainment online
AI is making lots of tasks easier, will only get better
robots and machines making home tasks easier as well
live in a country with an acceptable government (that I didn't vote for, but am OK with), universal Healthcare and strong social safety net
medicine constantly improving
china installing solar panels like maniacs, rapidly getting cheaper and more ubiquitous
Middle East is as fucked as ever, nothing I can do about it
Russia is always invading neighbors, and this time at least they got a fucking punch in the face
I've been much worse in the past.
You're not okay, you lack empathy. Me as well, I have nothing to complain about, and I am able to enjoy life despite all the shit that's wrong in the world, but I can read the room and don't feel the need to rub that in people's faces when clearly a lot of people are struggling. Also, I am sad for those people and frustrated that voting isn't enough, while doing "enough" would mean giving up a large part of my comfortable life, not because that's what it would take, but because too many people are doing jack shit to improve the world, or rather actively contributing to the clusterfuck that the world is in.
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