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By that I mean, it must be an inherently comforting thing to think - we inherently know this and want there to be something after death, because it feels right, or more meaningful. There's a reason basically every civilization ever has some sort of afterlife ethos.

I realize I am basically horseshoeing my way into evangelicalism but still. Maybe life was better if we believed there was something beyond this. [edit - please note that yes, the world is shitty, things are awful and getting worse, and that is exactly my point -- we get THIS SHIT, and nothing else? god that's awful]

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[–] dumblederp@aussie.zone 30 points 5 months ago

I'm depressed at the wealthy marching the planet off a cliff for profit at the cost of everyone else.

[–] weaponG@lemmy.world 28 points 5 months ago (4 children)

Modern science didn't have to prove to me that unicorns, elves, and fairies don't actually exist. Somehow, I figured that out on my own and moved on.

[–] Dirk@lemmy.ml 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

A horned horse to me makes more sense than the concept that is usually called "god".

[–] ieatpwns@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago

Especially makes more sense than narwhals.

[–] Successful_Try543@feddit.org 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

"I figured that out on my own" -> science

[–] Archpawn@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Figuring it out on your own is science, but I have a feeling OP didn't actually personally search the world for one-horned horses or pointy eared-people with long lifespans. I bet they didn't even work out how biology changes with scale and how evolution works to show that there can't be tiny winged people.

[–] Successful_Try543@feddit.org 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Yes you're right. It's more an untested hypothesis and no (counter) evidence has appeared by themselves to OC yet.

[–] SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Somebody did their own research.

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[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 28 points 5 months ago

Yeah surely it's the afterlife what caused my depression. Not the unemployment, my inability to find a job in the industry I've spent years of education, not my finances, not trying to figure out how to afford the dentist, not the state of my personal relationships and friendships no no no. It's the afterlife

[–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 19 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

I was raised Catholic, but as time went on and I left it, I think one of the misconceptions people who are still deeply religious have is that atheists or non-religious people are continually thinking about NOT having religion as much as religious people think about their religion, but the fact of the matter is, sometimes MONTHS go by where I don't have a single thought about religion, the afterlife, God... When you grow up in an organized religion you tend to feel the lack of religion is some kind of continual rejection of it, and it's hard to imagine people for whom it just isn't a presence in ANY sense. When you realize the presence of religion is neither necessary or sufficient for any part of life, you can start to see how life satisfaction or lack thereof has nothing to do with belief. There are horribly depressed devout worshipers and annoyingly peppy and positive atheists. It's an entirely different axis.

[–] Sternhammer@aussie.zone 4 points 5 months ago

This is an insightful observation.
I was raised Catholic as well, stopped going to Mass when I left home in my early 20s, and just never missed it. As a child I think I believed but as an adult religious belief seems completely unnecessary.
My son, who was raised an atheist, is now deeply religious—he’s a Benedictine monk (no, we didn’t see that coming!)—but even when visiting him religion seems like a lot of nonsense to me. (He’s happy and we accept his choice despite not sharing his beliefs.)

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 15 points 5 months ago

Na, it's more likely that worker wages have not kept up with productivity or inflation, we are killing the planet because it is cheaper/more profitable than not killing it, and the people who we vote for to lead us to better times are doing fuck all.

[–] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 15 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Science hasn't proven any of that, nor is it interested in it. Those are untestable claims made by religious institutions.

As for why I'M depressed, it's because all forms of agency that I consider important have been stripped of me. I'm trying to claw my way back, but the system is setup against it.

[–] disposable@lemm.ee 3 points 5 months ago

...all forms of agency that I consider important have been stripped of me.

This.

[–] Dirk@lemmy.ml 13 points 5 months ago

A depression is an illness. "Feeling depressed" is a symptom, not the cause. The cause is a bodily malfunction that needs to be treated with appropriate medicine.

If believing in some "higher being" or "the afterlife" helps an individual to deal with the symptoms of a depression that's great, but not believing such things does not cause a depression.

[–] tiredofsametab@kbin.run 12 points 5 months ago (2 children)

science has probably proven there is no god / afterlife

Well, for one, you "probably proven" doesn't make a whole lot of sense unless maybe you've got a paper waiting on peer review confirmation. In any case, it is exceedingly difficult to definitely prove something isn't for cases like this. Does every bit of evidence point to 'no'? Yes. However, it's still technically not proven to be false/absent.

Anyway, that's not the actual important part here. One human lifetime is generally a long time. There are lots of meaningful interactions that a person can have in that time. I would argue that, since it's not an eternity, the pressure is on to do something better with your life. That doesn't require gods or afterlives. Volunteer, meet up about hobbies, find a social group, etc.

we inherently know this and want there to be something after death, because it feels right, or more meaningful

I disagree. For one, if you get do-overs on life or an eternity to do whatever, isn't it inherently LESS meaningful since there are no stakes? Secondarily, I personally don't like the idea of trying to exist for an eternity; that sounds like it always ends in boring monotony... at least so much as something 'endless' 'ends' anyway (English be silly).

[–] morrowind@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago (2 children)

For one, if you get do-overs on life or an eternity to do whatever, isn't it inherently LESS meaningful since there are no stakes?

I don't know of any religion in which you get do overs with no stakes

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[–] K1nsey6@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago

Im an atheist and im not even remotely depressed. I live everyday to the fullest because I know it might be my last day on earth, all we are guaranteed is right now. And once I die I dont need the superstition of an afterlife, I believe that I will live on in the positive influence Ive had on many people.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 8 points 5 months ago

Science is a tool for answering questions about the physical world. By definition, it can't provide complete answers about things outside the physical realm.

[–] bear@lemmynsfw.com 8 points 5 months ago

No. It's because of lifestyle choices affecting diet, exercise, and sleep. But it does help to believe in something and feel a strong sense of purpose and meaning in life.

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 7 points 5 months ago

Not really.

There are tons of religious people who are depressed. I just see that, compared to today, there was a giant social stigma to being mentally unwell. People chose to hide being depressed.

I also see a lot of non-neurotypical behaviors being explained away as "being weird".

[–] theywilleatthestars@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Never found the idea of god particularly comforting

[–] sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

For many, life feels meaningful when... you can achieve goals you desire, improve things in a meaningful way for others, work at a job where you feel you are using your skills to build something notable, or have meaningful, successful relationships with people.

But, at least in the US... education is ruinously expensive, and is far from a ticket to a meaningful job in many cases, and there is more data than ever showing that, basically, if you are not born wealthy, or absurdly lucky, you'll end up doing worse than your parents.

The world is warming, previously absurd weather is now basically normal, infrastructure falling apart, scams are everywhere, personal debt levels are generally rising to the point that a significant number of people have to finance their groceries.

Divorce rates are high, huge numbers of people either cannot afford the time or money to put into developing a relationship with a life partner. Birth rates continue to decline.

Oh, and we appear to be falling ass backwards into theocratic fascism.

In my estimation, people are more depressed because their material conditions continue to deteriorate, and they realize they are less likely to achieve their dreams, much less what were considered 'normal life patterns' by the previous generations (home ownership, family).

The way I see it, meaning in life comes from agency, and beyond that, your ability to decide what is and is not worth doing, learning, cultivating.

Put more and more people in worse and worse conditions, lessen their actual ability to act, to achieve, and many will despair.

...

Personally, I think that religion basically functions as a crutch for those otherwise unable to mentally process the gravity of mortality, by simply telling the believer that death is not really death, everything continues, and if you are good, you will be immortal and happy.

If you take that away, you are left with the world as it is, your life as it is, and you must grapple with a reality that you are finite, in duration and capacity.

...

Its funny you bring up other ancient traditions.

The ancient Greek gods were said to envy mortals.

They found the limited lifespans of mortals made their every action and thought more meaningful, more consequential, more tragic when thrown away, more beautiful when they accomplished great deeds.

[–] the_toast_is_gone@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Really? Science disproved God? News to me, could you tell me more?

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 months ago (8 children)

Didn't disprove, just made clear that the odds are inconceivably low.

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[–] snooggums@midwest.social 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Not believing in an afterlife is fantastic! When I die my life is complete, and what I did during my life is all that matters. No worries about having to meet some arbitrary moral code or fighting for eternity or being reincarnated, just the void like before I was born.

Now living s And becoming more and more aware of how completely awful people can be, that is depressing.

[–] hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Don't think so. If life is just your SAT... I don't think examns are that enjoyable. And it's not like God gave us clear instructions anyways. If that sucks, it's on him. And the bible is more treating us with the carrot and a stick. Lots of it is invoking fear... don't do this, don't do that... He'll send plagues and illnesses, seems a narcissistic father and has no issue whatsoever making some of us suffer. I wouldn't like it at all if it were true.

Some people however will get a comfortable feeling from being exposed to empty promises. But to make them more effective, I'd say it'd need some more visual invitations. Like God showing himself and performing some more miracles so it becomes believable. And we need clearer instruction because christianity is just filled with contradictions. And it's hard to cope with that. The promise is afterlife, but you're set up for failure because of the bible telling everything and the opposite. And being set up for failure sucks.

[–] HootinNHollerin@lemmy.world 5 points 5 months ago

“When I’m dead, just throw me in the trash” - Frank Reynolds

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

All of the depression I have, has been caused by the people who believe in all that.

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Sorry but nothing has been proven whether or not God or any diety exists . There is so much about this universe that is way beyond our understanding.

[–] vividspecter@lemm.ee 4 points 5 months ago

I doubt underlying depression rates are any higher today than in the past. It's just not pushed under the rug anymore.

[–] pelletbucket@lemm.ee 4 points 5 months ago

also I'm an atheist but I don't think it's because science has "proven there's no god"

[–] Cosmos7349@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

I think probably more influential is the accessibility to global knowledge, so now it's really easy to see how shitty everything is, and also find more things to worry about

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 months ago

You can't disprove something like that. You can make convincing arguments, but only to people that don't really believe in the first place; it's just arguments if their faith is good.

Seriously, you can't prove an invisible, undetectable phenomenon doesn't exist. You can only prove that it doesn't give any measurable affects. And that's measurable so you just go right back to arguing to a wall if the faith is there.

But, no, the rest of the premise is flawed too. There are plenty of secular humanists that aren't depressed, and plenty of people in religions, including christianity (since that's the bias the question has) are.

Besides, who says the idea of an afterlife is comforting? Or that any given afterlife would be if you accept all of them as possible? The idea is absolutely horrifying to some because you're stuck with whatever it is forever. Eternity, stuck in some religion's heaven or hell, and neither is exactly as rosy an outlook as you'd think before looking into what is canonical about the various heavens.

But even reincarnation is horrifying. Doing this shit over and over and over until you get lucky and get the right life to figure out how to escape the cycle? Fuck that noise.

Joining a universal consciousness? Just as bad. Stuck in that state, watching the horrors of the universe play out? Not even if I don't have to remember being human, tyvm.

Life was absolutely not better when christianity was even more dominant and using whatever sick ideology of the afterlife they cooked up as a threat to obey.

Hell, just the idea that people weren't just as depressed 100 years ago is bullshit. They just didn't talk about it. But I had the opportunity to sit with people born in the 19th century, and can tell you that faith in an afterlife did not make them less depressed. It may have, on an individual level, helped them process grief, but that's a different thing, and I can promise you that nothing tests faith like grief.

If depression is more common now (rather than being more reported and discussed, and I don't know which it might be, or if it's a combination), have you looked at the world lately? You don't have to go looking for missing faith as a reason for depression when the absolute shit storm brewing currently is there.

And the younger folks? The kids and very young adults I know, their anxiety is very much linked to the world trying to be shittier instead of improving. Maybe that won't happen, but I don't know anyone under 21 that isn't dealing with some degree of anxiety post covid. Hell, I don't know many adults that aren't.

Keep the afterlife lol.

[–] hahattpro@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

No man. I am so happy that for what i did now have no consequences after i die. So i live as i see fit.

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

If science has proven something, that means there's a falsifiable hypothesis, and experiments you can perform.

You cannot prove a negative. Example: unicorns don't exist, prove it... At best, you can demonstrate there is no recorded observation of unicorn, that is a far cry from saying there are no unicorns anywhere.

[–] Dirk@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 months ago

Given the fact that there are other horned animals (some of them having a centered horn in the middle of the head) the probability of a horse-like animal with a centered horn is definitely larger than 0.

[–] DrQuickbeam@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Short answer: Yes! Partially!

Long answer: Belief is a feature that humans have that can give you confidence both in proven outcomes and in the unknown. It stems from our prefrontal cortex survival capabilities to remember past experiences and simulate future experiences. Aka imagination. We can believe in anything we choose to.

Yes belief is psychologically comforting. Certainly a lot more than worrying about the unknown. It's even more comforting if the belief is shared by a social group, reinforcing it to each other.

Other aspects of religion make life easier too. Rituals, traditions, stories and social ties.

Those things can help with depression! Depression is a cognitive-affective response to a body that isn't living the way our bodies were evolved to live. Key factors of that include: Daily socialization,, getting the right nutrients, sleeping well, getting enough exercise, getting enough sunlight and having strategies to keep our minds from worrying. Belief can do the last one, as can meditation, or triggering flow states by engaging in activities. Religion can also help with the socializing one.

Hope this helps!

[–] LordCrom@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

An afterlife was created by humans natural survival instinct. Before science, I'm 100% sure that it was a coping mechanism to deal with our knowledge of impending death.

Now that we understand more of the universe, most still can't shake that need.

[–] ieatpwns@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

After I die, I’m dead. who gives a fuck there’s no after life? I certainly won’t I’ll be dead.

[–] palarith@aussie.zone 2 points 5 months ago

I am depressed because we are living in an ecological disaster wrapped in social disorder with a side dish of war.

[–] pelletbucket@lemm.ee 1 points 5 months ago

nah there is probably tens of thousands of years of human history before we invented an afterlife

[–] leftzero@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 5 months ago

No, we're depressed because of rampant enshittification.

Because the rights our parents and grandparents fought for are being eroded at an accelerating rate in the name of short term profits, religion, and other forms of irrationality.

Because we've fucked up the world to the point of it being too damn hot to survive in and we're not only not doing anything to fix it, but we're doing everything possible to make it worse.

Because we can no longer have any rational hope for a better future and can only irrationally hope for an ever more unlikely revolution to fix it, and even that probably wouldn't make it any better in our lifetimes, or even our children's lifetimes.

Because we can see civilisation collapsing around us, and we know that this time there's probably no coming back, since we've squandered any and all resources a future civilization would require to reach the heights we've reached.

Because we murdered the future, and now we, and our children, and our children's children, have to try and survive in its rotting corpse.

That's why we're depressed.

[–] LostWanderer@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 5 months ago

Life would be better if human beings collectively worked to make life better for the previous, current, and next generation of human beings. By creating policies that positively impact the society, quality of life could be much better. Life would gain more meaning if the standard of living would increase, work wasn't an ever free time-consuming thing, the ailments of the mind were handled much better. We need to fix the crisis that homelessness, hunger, limited or no access to healthcare can cause within a society. If people had the chance to live without worries about the immediate future, perhaps depression would not be such an issue. Right now, it feels like a select many who got theirs are desperate to make sure not many people get the same opportunities. Some want to actively dismantle democracy and destroy the very few social safety nets the USA has, I see this as another source of misery (at least in the USA in particular).

I don't know what you've been reading, but the last time I checked: Science hasn't proven that there is no god or afterlife; this is still an open question at the moment. It's a matter of faith, as science is chasing far more important answers. I personally neither disbelief nor believe in a God; there's no direct proof save what people have written about said being. If anything, a serious lack of direct communication with all living beings on Earth seems to be an indication of an absence of a Creator Being. Also, given the contradictory nature of the bible; it feels like the pure work of man, with no higher power involved. Those who were desperate to control people through faith; latching on to the chance to control a faith-based narrative, since polytheism was on its way out.

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