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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 

Can any straight man here explain what they like and why they like boobs so much? Like, what makes them attractive and why? Is it the size? Shape? Or The way they jiggle?

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[–] python@programming.dev 93 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Not straight, and not a man, but I just think they're neat! There really doesn't need to be a "why" to attraction, sometimes your brain just sees something and goes "yes"

[–] ieatpwns@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

You get it!

[–] Glasgow@lemmy.ml 89 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Life is hard and boobs are soft.

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[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 88 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Honestly? I often ponder this. It's amusing when you consider how enamored we are with bosoms.

I've heard it described that "Woman is the most beautiful shape in the human consciousness." And that stuck with me.

My wife often catches me gawking and thinks it's weird but I'm just like "You're just amazing. All of you. Everything about you." I feel like an idiot because I can't explain what the heck I actually mean.

It's just hard to fathom how a single being can be so... naturally aesthetic!

Women are just awesome. As a visual artist myself, I totally understand the compulsion to depict cute/pretty/happy/sexy ladies all the time. Heck, some artists do this exclusively. Variety is the spice of life, artists, but I get it. πŸ˜‚

I think we're coded to enjoy rounded elegant shapes, but there's something enchanting about femininity as a whole, and boobs and butts signal "feminine!!" to our brains.

Also I'd say size and such really doesn't matter. I think the really fascinating thing is the sheer variety, to the point they're unique to the woman as an individual person. And it has nothing to do with biological essentialism! (Tiny boobs are just as good at feeding young as ginormous ones)

It's also a bit cultural, I think. They're so obvious, yet hidden in polite company. So seeing them exposed feels like you have an intimate window into this person's world, and you feel special for the privilege, I suppose.

Lol now I feel like a weirdo, typing this all out. Does that help? LOL

[–] makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml 33 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Straight male here. This response is excellent.

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[–] mineralfellow@lemmy.world 12 points 2 weeks ago

I have spent the last 12 years trying to convince my wife that I am not trying to trick her. I really do think she is that beautiful.

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 56 points 2 weeks ago (12 children)

Gay woman

Small ones are cute and bite sized, big ones are squishy pillows. Regardless of size, they're all soft and cute.

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[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 50 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Everybody likes boobs. They are the first positive thing we are introduced to in life.

The inprint is strong.

[–] Meltrax@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)
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[–] schnurrito@discuss.tchncs.de 39 points 2 weeks ago

More or less an instinct I think. That is how I was able to tell I was starting puberty, that I started to imagine and want to see and touch naked breasts of the women and girls around me. I myself didn't have an explanation why, but that was now more than half my life ago and it hasn't stopped.

I don't have strong preferences as to shape and size. Small breasts are still breasts.

[–] random_character_a@lemmy.world 23 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I think there's a similar attraction to all erogenous areas, but due to cultural reasons breasts are ones that are always covered and their uncovering signals intimacy.

Favoring big breasts is mostly a cultural thing with some links to biological instincts that I wouldn't give much weight to.

"Jiggling" transfers information about their structure and your brain can create a model on their "feel" without touching.

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[–] recentSloth43@lemmy.world 22 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Humans are the only mammals with boobs that stay "inflated" without childbirth or breastfeeding involved.

The theory is that it's an evolutionary selection, and the hypothesis is it's an aesthetic choice that keeps reinforcing itself (a positive feedback loop) and now it's HotWired in our brains.

The way i personally see it though, just like how i like certain types of food without a proper explanation to why, i also like boobs.

There's also the idea it's connected to being breastfed as a baby which brings back all those warm and safety feelings with them. That doesn't explain why most women (I speculate) aren't as into boobs as the average guy. That said, I've met multiple women, some straight,who also found boobs very fascinating. So maybe they get the same warm and safety feelings minus the sexual attraction?

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[–] Wakmrow@hexbear.net 21 points 2 weeks ago

It's not complicated. If you're straight, secondary sex characteristics differentiate the opposite sex for you. This is also why men like wide asses--widening of the hips for women is a secondary sex trait.

Women also exhibit this attraction. Conventionally attractive men have square jaws due to more muscle produced from testosterone. They also tend to have facial hair and more muscle definition, all of which are secondary sex traits from testosterone production. Increased height is also an indicator.

I'm not a scientist. But it seems we're coded to find sexually mature people attractive and those signifiers tend to be secondary sex traits.

[–] GrammarPolice@lemmy.world 20 points 2 weeks ago
[–] devfuuu@lemmy.world 19 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

at the beginning there was only ass. when humans still walked in 4 legs, the sexual thing they saw in front was ass cheeks. then humans went and started to walk on 2 legs. humans evolved and developed basically boobs so they were at eye level and attract the males.

boobs are the cheap version of ass.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 19 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

They are soft, easy to grab, and they belong to an attractive person's body at large, which makes them an amazing tactile experience overall.

On the looks, they greatly complement the hourglass shapes, which are very harmonious and pleasing.

[–] HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 2 weeks ago

I don't know, probably for the same reason others like other things. Chemical reactions, probably?

[–] SteleTrovilo@beehaw.org 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It can't be explained directly, by itself. They're part of a bigger picture.

Straight men are attracted to women on the whole - legs, arms, waist, face, chest, back, it's all good. Whatever force it is that makes us attracted to women, it's not something that we chose or decided. We just do.

Since boobs are a sign of femininity, they're attractive to us on exactly that level! They fit into our idea of what women look like.

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[–] Dr_Box@lemmy.world 17 points 2 weeks ago

All three of those things. On a subconscious primal level though it means nutrition for babies

[–] BenLeMan@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm not seeing a lot of mentions of nipples here. So for me, size is pretty much secondary. Nice, prominent nipples are sure to get my attention, though.

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[–] Trollivier@sh.itjust.works 12 points 2 weeks ago

Boobies make good pillows.

[–] verdigris@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 weeks ago

The biological hypothesis is that they look like an ass on your chest. Asses are visually arousing for males for what I hope are obvious reasons.

[–] Aarrodri@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Firmware. It's not a logical rational decision. Years of evolution I guess? There is embedded code in our brains that see tatas and we go ape.

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[–] squid_slime@lemm.ee 11 points 2 weeks ago

Just something compelling about them. All shapes and sizes

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 10 points 2 weeks ago

Our dumb monkey brains just like them. It's all of those things you mentioned.

[–] robotElder2@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago

Why does the sun rise? Why does the grass grow? The cock like the heart just wants what it wants. It's like searching for deeper meaning in your favorite color.

[–] DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Boobs look like they're drops of water, just about to drip. So there's a certain anticipation there. Our brains are wired to predict where action and movement is going to be.

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[–] BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 7 points 2 weeks ago

Why do you like chocolate?

Coffee?

Ice cream?

Brussels Sprouts?

[–] whaleross@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Because of biological programming. Humans are the only mammals with females that have permanent boobyliciously boobing boobies, so as per evolution it is no surprise that human males are going boinks for them. Size, shape, motion, who they be on are the mutual factors for any attractive body part, quite so also for boobs. They are cute when tight and jiggly, pretty when bouncy and cozy to feel up regardless of size, neat to catch a stolen glimpse and satisfactory to blblblblbl.

I don't know what kind of shocking reveal you expect.

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[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

All of that. It makes a mesmerizing movement that I would just like to keep looking at.

[–] gnutrino@programming.dev 6 points 2 weeks ago

Probably some form of Fisherian runaway over the course of human evolution tbh.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I don't know why. But I like small firm boobs.. Seeing their shapes through clothes is the sexiest to me.

I remember how I thought about this before I went into puberty though. I had no interests in girls at all. And I remember wondering when that would happen.

Then it did happen and boobs became very sexy. So I guess it's just chemicals in our brains/body causing it.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 weeks ago

Shape mostly, but also texture, softness, and smell.

[–] SouthEndSunset@lemm.ee 5 points 2 weeks ago

All of what you said. Something about them makes them ace to look at.

Plus, boobs are boobs…big, small, saggy, perky, real, fake. As man’s reaction when a woman takes her top off is a good way to judge him….

[–] Sam_Bass@lemmy.ml 5 points 2 weeks ago

because they are the soft warm and sweet examples of life

[–] secret300@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 2 weeks ago
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