A paid professional thinks you should. Why are you asking the Internet?
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A paid profession sure, but not a lawyer. In this instance, professional is meaningless and carries the same weight as a professional garbage man.
Well yes but the therapist definitely has more information than we do about the context.
They have a lot more information about what OP thinks and has told them about the situation, which may or may not accurately reflect the reality (I'm not trying to call OP a liar or anything, it's the old thing about there being 3 sides to every story- yours, theirs, and the truth.)
They also probably don't know much more about the law and how it pertains to OP's situation than you or I do. I wouldn't expect a therapist to be any more knowledgeable about employment laws than I would expect a lawyer to be knowledgeable about psychology, or that I would expect either of them to be about wastewater treatment, it's not their field.
There's also the issue of why the therapist thinks op should pursue it.
Do they think it's because OP is likely to win their case? Again, I don't think they're necessarily in a great position or qualified to say one way or the other. OP needs to consult with a lawyer to know if it makes sense for them from a legal/financial perspective to try to pursue this.
Do they think it would be good for OP to have this opportunity to confront their former employer, to try to hold them accountable, get justice, etc. because they think it might bring OP some sort of closure/catharsis? That could certainly be a valid reason, but at the end of the day, it kind of falls on OP to make that judgement call, would it be worth the time, energy, and money to go to court over this, or is it something they can just move on from? And in case they don't win, what then? Would just having the opportunity be enough for OP whether or not they win, or would a loss make OP feel even worse, leave them right back at square one or worse, and still needing to find a way to deal with it?
Are they genuinely suggesting OP pursue it, or are they saying it to spur OP to think about these kinds of things themselves and make a decision-any decision, because it needs to happen now, 3 months isn't much time left.
At least talk to a lawyer about it and try to get your therapy paid for.
I think you should ask a lawyer and not a therapist or internet randos.
Internet rando here.
I think OP should buy 40 gallons of creamed corn!!!
You need to provide about 95% more detail if you want anything resembling a useful answer.
Seems like your therapist would know more about the situation than random people on the internet. If you're at this point, you probably should shift to discussing it with a lawyer to see if there's a case. No need to plan time off if there's not a case you can legally bring. You can take it one step at a time.
Your therapist seems to think it's good for your peace of mind.
Talk to a lawyer to figure out if it's also good for your wallet.
And quickly. 3 months is likely the filing date. That could take weeks of prep.
Talk to a lawyer who specializes in employment and labor. Many firms will offer a free consult where you can speak with somebody, explain your situation, and they can then tell you whether or not it'll be worth pursuing further. If they tell you you have a case, then congrats, get ready for court.
If they tell you that you don't have a case, then most likely you should drop it. You could always try asking another firm for their opinion, as well, but if the first firm turned down a case with you, then there's probably a good reason for it. It sucks, but sometimes that's the reality of it.
You also mentioned not being able to afford the time off work to handle a legal case, which is also a really big concern that you should consider. Sometimes the most unjust part of justice is how much it costs to get it. While standing up for your morals and ensuring that those who have done wrong are punished for it is great, just make sure that you don't take yourself down in process.
Ask a lawyer.
Your therapist gave you their honest and sober view and that should be worth something.
If you consult a lawyer, they have to tell you the truth about what your chances are and shit and if they lie they can get into deep trouble. But they are the only ones to know your chances and the damages you'd get as a payout, and thus they are the exact ppl you need right now.
Also thank you for not dismissing what your therapist said. It is really hard to get some perspective on how fucked up stuff is if you go through it and trusting a therapist on it is very difficult as well, so you are doing great.
With that I wish you the best - the struggle is over, now either you'll move on or you will make even.
Can you convince a lawyer to take it on contigency? If not, can you afford to pay for a lawyer through a lengthy trial and then lose? If not, no. It's a gamble, never bet money you can't afford to lose. Only a lawyer can help you judge the odds but even the best lawyer can't guarantee an outcome.
Lawyer. We are not.
but I also want justice
Can't get that. All you can get is money.
If you don't, they will continue with whatever actions they did and more former employees will end up in therapy.
Yes.
Find yourself a lawyer that has good references with you know several tens of millions of dollars of successful verdicts in their favor that does we don't collect unless you win law services.
Even if they don't accept you, they will likely refer you to another lawyer that they have worked with in the past that they have good rapport with.
They'll probably take 35 to 45% of the win, but if they're good enough law firm there's a good chance your former employer will settle and you'll have cash in your hand within a year.
Three months isn't a lot of time, so I would talk to a lawyer sooner rather than later. Google employment lawyers in your area, or "attorney referral service [your state]." You should be able to get a free consultation.
Some lawyers may be able to tell you right away if they'll take your case, but it may take a little time. And you may want to get more than one opinion. If you have any documents, round those up and hang onto them.