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Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 months ago by RebiJes@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] Azzu@lemm.ee 11 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Well, what about people that aren't attractive. Are they supposed to never have partners?

[–] TheButtonJustSpins@infosec.pub 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

They're not attractive to you. Everyone is attractive to someone.

[–] Azzu@lemm.ee -3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Mentally, definitely. But we're talking about physically here. Physical attractiveness is pretty much the same across all humans, or rather what isn't attractive. Extreme mutilations and similar for example.

[–] MajorHavoc@programming.dev 13 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Physical attractiveness is pretty much the same across all humans,

I take your point, and I used to believe that, but I learned my view was pretty narrow, compared to the options/tastes expressed by the diverse people I've met, since.

[–] TheButtonJustSpins@infosec.pub 6 points 3 months ago

Nah, you grossly underestimate the kink community.

[+] sunzu@kbin.run -20 points 3 months ago (1 children)

They should date each other...

Why do unattractive people think they gonna jump above their lot. Some fuxking immature way of thinking lol

It ain't settling if you are both fugly... Lol

[–] frickineh@lemmy.world 15 points 3 months ago (1 children)

To anyone who considers a good personality attractive, I'm guessing dating you would be considered scraping the bottom of the barrel.

[+] sunzu@kbin.run -6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

We are talking about looks per OP's prompt. There is nothing wrong with less attractive but you ain't gonna "date up" unless you got something really going for you and even then vast majority of people end up with same looking person.

Either way, Is that supposed to be an insult?

Why is u hurt lol

[–] frickineh@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm not personally insulted. I just think it's incredibly shitty to treat dating like some kind of caste system where people "belong" at a certain level. I can see why you said you can't "score" anyone that you view as more attractive when you view things that way.