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Tinder and the other apps are pretty bad. Partly because they want to make money, not matches.
But also partly because the users suck at using them. People are like "I want interesting conversation" but reply with nothing but "lol". Come in my dude put some work in.
A lot of profiles on these sites are entirely fake or bot-operated, to boost the impression that you're getting matches. Some profiles are run by data miners who swipe match on everyone just to get the additional data that comes with a match. Others are run by businesses that are using the profiles for promotion.
Slapping "I want interesting conversation" in the profile is a great way to bait engagement, but more often than not there's no dating prospect on the other side of the profile. This isn't a string of incredibly vapid women you're running into, its dummy accounts and scams.
Somehow I hadn't even considered fake profiles. I don't know if that makes me feel better or worse about the situation.
My coworker told me that even restaurants will post "profiles", get matches and set up first dates at their establishments. The person will obviously get stood up, but they are more likely to spend money in the establishment since they're already there. Like maybe a drink or 2.
Now that's evil.
As someone who has been stood up consecutively 16 times. What a monsterous way to acquire business
Better about your future potential dating pool but worse about the tech industry is where I went with it.
There's a cute little audiobook I listened to recently, called "The Verifiers" which was written by a person who worked professionally in the dating app industry and turned her experience into a thriller novel. Definitely made me feel better about getting the run around, since this is apparently the professional standard and not just me being uniquely stupid.
yup if any dating service needs you to pay a subscription instead of a one time payment and it helps you until you succeed, they have an active incentive to keep you as a customer as long as possible and guess what makes you stop being a customer.
Weirdly, none of them really focus on the non-monogamous market. There's a section of likely long term users.
I'm not someone remotely into that market, but my understanding is there isn't a huge demand for this outside the Ashley Madison type who are cheating. The various cliques have their own methods of finding each other and generally aren't interested in broadcasting that to a wider market.
A lot of the polyamorous people I know are on the apps or have tried them, but aren't happy with them. Partly because the apps generally aren't good, and partly because you end up with a lot of wasted "your desired relationship structure isn't what I want" matches.
OkCupid has some support for it, but that app hasn't been good or interesting in years. Tinder lets you pick your relationship type, but you can't like filter by it. Soneone threatened to "report me" on Hinge (I think?) for wanting a non monogamous relationship. Maybe they thought relationship anarchy was something dangerous.
This might be different outside of NYC, where I am.
Dating outside of a major city is incredibly hard, and being non-mono makes it even harder.
At older age ranges the ENM users are definitely more noticeable on the dating apps.