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[–] beefbot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 81 points 1 month ago (2 children)

OP: meh.

Yeah: Your ancestors are all watching, cheering you on, saying:

“We NEVER wanted children. FINALLY one of us broke the cycle!!”

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 30 points 1 month ago

You found my partners family. Literally people who hated children placed a generational curse for thier kids hate their children.

[–] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

Them: "we were just horny fucks with no condoms"

Me, gay: "watch me solve that problem with this one weird trick!"

[–] noride@lemm.ee 62 points 1 month ago (4 children)

It is pretty crazy to think that for literally thousands of years, every single ancestral pairing, going all the way back to the first lil mud skippers that flopped up on land, have decided to produce offspring, which is ultimately the only reason you're even alive today.

And when it's your turn to uphold the unbroken tradition dating back millennia, you're just like 'naaaaaaah, fuck that yo'????

Honestly that's fuckin awesome! The point of life is your own personal experience, and you should absolutely do everything you can to push it in the direction of your choosing, tradition be damned. ✌️

[–] eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

The way I see it is that tradition is working pretty damn well on the whole. People are producing kids just fine, taking care of them as they grow and become adults is the hard part. That lineage you point to is the only reason I'm alive today, yes, but there are a lot of other "only reasons" I'm alive today that happened after I was born, and many of them were very much not from my biological parents.

Personally there was a lot of generational trauma in my upbringing and I don't wanna pass that on. These days I've taken that parental drive and repurposed it toward the adults in my community whose parents have decided to abandon them, usually due to being queer. It's different than having a parental relationship to a kid, but I'm finding a community guardian role is filling the same emotional need. The people I care for won't carry my name, but I didn't even carry my own name lol.

I used to struggle with the fact that nothing I do will likely outlive me, but now I feel it's just as worthwhile to make the present day better for the people who need it. I'd still love to work with kids, maybe teach or something, but being trans makes many parents less willing to allow their kids to be around me. I might foster someday, it'll be a challenge but I think it's something I'd get a lot more out of.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

You know what, at least 7 branches of hominids existed from the same line (12 if you count one evolving to the next) and only one of them lead to us.

To be fair a lot of people don’t have the choice

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago

Hey. It's like sometimes you don't need to score the goal -- pass the ball and let someone else score with your help. It's a society, man, and as a group we're not in (much) danger of external extinction.

[–] nova@lemmy.world 52 points 1 month ago (2 children)

That is literally the funniest ASCII drawing I've seen.

[–] Luvs2Spuj@lemmy.world 18 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I can't make sense of how I'm supposed to see it ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ

[–] SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

It’s a little dude lying down the _ and 」are his arms

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[–] Mango@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

LMAO, thanks so much!

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[–] SmoothOperator@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think it's someone lying on their side? Like a sexy lying down pose with a leg and an arm stretched out.

[–] RestrictedAccount@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What is the close parentheses?

[–] SLVRDRGN@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Their rounded top and bottom of body?

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[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 48 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

It's weird why people call it a line, we're just a leaf on a big ass tree

[–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)
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[–] pomfegranate@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (3 children)

What if my tree isnt a tree and it has a cycle?

[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 3 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Then your family might just need therapy

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[–] UmeU@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Each line is a tree in a forest.

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[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 47 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Asexual, sex-repulsed, intersex. Bloodline stops with me for like all the reasons.

But where a bloodline ends, freezer burrito consumption begins.

[–] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 5 points 1 month ago

Burritos are worth it :p

[–] kabi@lemm.ee 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

If your ancestry was a tree, what people think of when saying this is the tree getting uprooted, when it really is more akin to cutting off a two, perhaps three growing seasons old branch.

~~Which is to say that not even in this teeny tiny way do you matter.~~

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[–] Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

The point of progeny is to increase the likelihood of your species survival. Today, the opposite is true. I'd call it luck.

[–] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not species, genes. Species is a socially constructed concept. Selection operates at the level of individual genes which are the fundamental transmissible units.

Bacteria even carry out horizontal gene transfer via the exchange of plasmids between cells!

[–] roguetrick@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

Baby, thanks to CRISPR, humans can too.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 month ago

I wonder if decreased reproduction in developed countries is the result of evolutionary forces from long ago. It seems like most animals are the opposite, and have more offspring during times of plenty.

[–] IphtashuFitz@lemmy.world 17 points 1 month ago

Eh… My brother has two sons. No need for me to add more.

[–] udon@lemmy.world 17 points 1 month ago

I like how this flips the narrative from: "I need to make my impact on the future by leaving a child!" to "I can also make an impact on the future by deciding not to leave a child here!"

[–] solsangraal@lemmy.zip 15 points 1 month ago

also japanese. also didn't inherit the hardwired instinctual urge to pass on my genes ¯\__(ツ)__/¯

[–] Kiwi_fella@lemmy.world 15 points 1 month ago

I went on a little thought journey about this, partly because I'll never have my own biological kids (snip snip). Ironically, I have a family tree that is traced back to the 1500s. My branch will just stop. I'm OK with that - this is my choice. There will be a lot of branches that just stop because of unfortunate deaths. The difference is whether it's by choice or not, maybe?(?) Is this a bad thing anyway?

[–] IMNOTCRAZYINSTITUTION@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago (4 children)
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[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Jokes' on my ancestors, we've been getting through a bottleneck for the last 3 generations. All only children... at least on my mum's side, my dad's side's not faring much better with my generation and our kids

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[–] jaggedrobotpubes@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

They lived at a time when there was no planet-level reason not to have kids. You don't. Swap places and the behaviors swap. This isn't because of you.

At least not statistically.

[–] AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

I looked it up and it seems that there are other Homo sapiens sapiens, so it was never up to me after all.

[–] Gingerlegs@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] rustydrd@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 month ago

I do the same thing, but I regard it as carrying on the proud tradition of kings, like Charles IV and Richard III, who have done this before me.

[–] johannesvanderwhales@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

They probably still have a few branches of the family tree growing.

[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 month ago

I always find that funny, people only think about their branch but I'm looking at my family tree and even though my branch stops, my cousins have kids, the family lives on, so who cares about the bloodline bullshit?

[–] buttfarts@lemy.lol 4 points 1 month ago

Thank you for your service

[–] nasi_goreng@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 month ago

no way a nananiji idolposting on lemmy 😳😳

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