Polyamory is WRONG! You people disgust me!
Mixing Latin and Greek words like that! Either call it multiamory or polyphilia!
The nerve of some people!
this post was submitted on 27 Jul 2024
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This is why I don't watch television.
How do you feel about multiphilia? ;-)
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I never noticed
swing on by for a chat
I see you.
Interesting topic. Any link to share?
!polyamory@kbin.run /c/polyamory@kbin.run
Delighted to see another Mbin magazine for once. It is the Fediverse, and lately it's been feeling like the Lemmyverse. Hope this gets users.
TY! I'm still learning the syntax.
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I hope you're ready for a deluge of ignorant comments. And some malicious ones.
I'm going quickly enumerate some of the more common responses.
"I knew a poly couple and they broke up!" -> we've all known many monogamous relationships that ended, too. Though it is true that going from a conventional, deeply entangled, monogamous relationship to something else is challenging. Read about the missing step if you're interested. Monogamous people would also benefit.
"It's bad for the kids!" -> the poly people I know who have kids, the kids are doing great. They have more adults in their lives that are invested in them.
"It's just cheating!" -> cheating is when you break agreed upon rules. If the rules don't include "only have sex with one person", then it's not cheating to do otherwise.
"It's just about sex!" -> sometimes! Sometimes monogamous relationships are just about sex. Sometimes they're not.
"I'm too jealous for that!" -> most people experience jealousy. What's important is how you deal with it. If you're the kind of person who has a freak out and breaks into your partner's phone because he smiled at the waitress, that's not ok and not something to be proud of. You can and should work on emotional regulation.
"You poly people think you're better than everyone!" -> some people might. But that's true for any subcategory of people. Vegans. Linux users. City dwellers. Country dwellers. I will say that living unexamined choices I think is the worse choice. If monogamy is something you really thought about and chose, fine, good for you. But if you're just doing it because that's expected and never gave it a thought? Less impressed. The same for eating meat or using windows.
Ok, I think that's all the highlights.
We've already had "it's just about sex". And anyone that's been around has heard all the rest, and more. Let's see how it rolls, without expectations, fearless. And please, when your predictions come to fruition, come help out. It's all about education, and conversation. :-)
!polyamory@kbin.run is the link you want to put. Otherwise it just links to !polyamory on the user's home instance.
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Correct me if I am wrong but are there not websites for this stuff? This got me curious because never been screwed by a man. And as a lesbian I think about it from time to time.
I mean. It’s any website that has user communities, if their users skew that way.
Polyamory isn’t some niche kink.
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I think I may be misunderstanding your question. Is this not a "website for this stuff"? Or do you mean by "this stuff" a dating site? Mostly I see this site as a place for polyamory related discussion, memes, infographics, book reviews and lists, links to other 'websites for this stuff', news and related info, etc, etc. And all those things that other poly folx will think of that have never occurred to me. In case it's not crossed your radar, it's been out so long, Lesbian Polyfidelity by Celeste West was an early book in my polyamorous education. :-)
Thank you for the answer....no sarcasm.
You are welcome. It's all about the conversation. I saw an opportunity to build a tiny bit of friendly space in the Fediverse. I'm a reddit-fugee, and don't need the sort of antagonism I found there in my life, any more. Yesterday, I searched up polyamory on Fedi, and with my poor search skills thought no one had made a poly community here. So I popped up something on Kbin.run as it's my 'native' instance, thinking it would be a stub, but there appears to be interest. I asked specifically, later in the day when I had searched more effectively and found that there are indeed other poly related communities, e.g. on lemmy.world, and also polyamory alberta (tho no posts there in a year, I hope they can flourish, soon) - I asked if there was a need/ interest in keeping this one (https://kbin.run/m/Polyamory), and everyone said we should keep it, as there's strength in diversity. So my poly-brain couldn't say no to that.
Ok and not being a bitch or sarcastic that has got to be on the sidebar or something similar. You are better than my google search.
Umm, (coyly) why thank you! I don't use goog, if I can avoid it. Insert brief anti-corporate rant. In this case I was searching within the Feidiverse using the search bar on Kbin.run. And also searching with DuckDuckGo!, which search engine doesn't save one's searches/ results. I'll put links to other polyfedi stuff in the sidebar, good suggestion. :-)
I'm really confused how you got from polyamory to 'getting screwed by a man.'
Polyamory's for lesbians too. Three women all dating each other counts. In a different comment they talk about not knowing what polyamory is, looking it up, and getting sex stuff, so maybe they saw some one-guy-two-girl porn stuff?
What's the confusion? This person wants to find a person with a ding dong to bring into their otherwise zim zam kinda life.
I'm not really sure, I think I misread lol
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