Welcome to the friendzone! You have to decide if having a friend is ok for you (spoiler alert, it might slowly consume you from the inside as you battle between wanting more and not wanting to go against what she wants), or if that's not what you want just drop it. It's painful at the beginning but better for yourself in the long term.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 36 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah, romantic compatibility is a two way street. If they aren't feeling it, you're better off as friends. Trust me, you don't want to be in a relationship where one person isn't very attracted to the other. I've been on both sides of that coin, and it's all shit.

Don't pine for anyone. If you're a match, you both make each other feel amazing being together.

[–] But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world 26 points 3 weeks ago

It’s also ok to not be friends at all, if I’m looking for a romantic partner and it doesn’t work, find another, you don’t need to collect forced friends along the way

[–] SuperSpruce@lemmy.zip 9 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I guess I'll take the friend, maybe she can introduce me to someone I'm more compatible with?

[–] SteveNashFan@lemmy.world 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

And as a bonus, you might later ask out someone she knows. If that other gal asks her about you, she'll have a good report because you respected boundaries she put up.

[–] SuperSpruce@lemmy.zip 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Funny enough, the day before she rejected me, she told me a story of how she's setting up her friend with a guy her friend thinks is cute. But the competition is fierce, I have an average face and below average height and my best qualities take time to get to know.

[–] SteveNashFan@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

A woman worth dating will value a kind, respectful man over one with the best looks or height. I'd honestly see a woman valuing height highly as a red flag lol. Keep your stick on the ice, even if it doesn't work out you can learn something from every relationship/attempt.

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 weeks ago

Having a girl who can attest to your better points and vouch for your having a nonviolent reaction to "no" can go farther than you might imagine with other women.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

That works well. Really, really well.

[–] SuperSpruce@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I cannot tell if this is sarcastic.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Completely serious.

That probably didn't help. I ended up dating several people who were very compatible based on connections made by prior interests who didn't work out.

[–] acockworkorange@mander.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago

The friendzone always sucks. Sometimes you can become colleagues, but real friends? You’re just hurting yourself for longer.