Ok I went and looked it up, the original question in the screenshot was about specifically dating and specifically trans men. Not a one night stand, and not someone who likes being a woman

Potentially yes, they can exhibit similar patterns. In fact lots of cishet women have also complained about being objectified because their (potential) dating partner is attracted not to the whole package but to a specific part of them- it's a classic feminist talking point. The "chaser" label gets added when the person being objectified is marked as deviant in some way. But it's def not just cishet men who are capable of it.

It's not just being attracted, it's being attracted conditional on the person having x characteristic (that they might not even want to have). That's the very definition of fetishizing/objectifying and it's not toxic to criticize it.

I will grant that this is more of an issue for relationships than for hookups etc. As a wise woman once told me- chasers are gross, but they also help pay her rent, so really it's impossible to say if they're bad or not.

So yeah, I can see why a queer friendly instance would defederate an instance whose admins promote/defend that sort of rhetoric. Hexbear might have jumped the gun (as I told them at the time- the turnaround time was less than 24 hours and the head admin had no chance to respond) but the blahaj admins weren't great either

To use an analogy, imagine you're fat and trying to lose weight. Someone admits they are attracted to you, "sure, as long as you're still fat". Can you see how this would not be a good basis for a healthy relationship? You could even say it is a sign of a "chubby chaser". Likewise for transness.

Also, people are overly sensitive because being denied full/legitimate relationships is a frequent pain point for trans people (esp trans women). The classic trope is the boyfriend who will take you on dates but refuse to introduce you to his friends/relatives.

https://youtu.be/_574Rxxez2c

This should be less true for lemmy, instance admins have very direct access to server logs so they should directly be able to see say, a batch of bot accounts signing up and starting a voting ring.

My (we're Russian) mom always said it was because true cowboys know that if you take them off a scorpion could crawl in, so better safe than sorry

potentially any of them

might have something to do with being a (former) colonial empire and having a habit of looking down on other cultures. I'm Russian and we have the same problem

I don't recall that one having 6dof tho

so, like (a lot of) human music