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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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If you’ve reached the point where you feel the need to ask the Internet (especially Reddit) for relationship advice, it’s probably time to break up. (reddthat.com)
submitted 8 hours ago by abientot@reddthat.com to c/showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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[–] thisbenzingring@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 3 hours ago

I have read a few and commented on a couple, usually when its a young person clearly ignorant of something potentially dangerous to them.

But most of the shit on there is so stupid. Like I get it! being in your early 20s or late teens and having those first relationships is a hard thing and your friends arent always good sources of advice. And you might want to your parents or other adults to be proud of you so you might not ask them the right questions.

But if the post starts to get more then a couple hundred upvotes or comments, it turns into a shit show

[–] AdamEatsAss@lemmy.world 15 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I feel like relationship advice and am I the asshole both fall into this category. There is never any good advice that you couldn't find elsewhere and most people posting are just looking for agreement on what they already believe.

[–] abientot@reddthat.com 5 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

True. Worse, all the advice and pseudo-advice subs (r/relationshipadvice, r/TrueOffMyChest, r/Advice, etc.) have basically turned into an “AITA?” zone, even though that’s not what they’re supposed to be about.

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 12 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Naa I got good relationships advice from reddit long time ago. I just needed to know if I was crazy and it turned out I was very uninformed on the situation.

[–] Crashumbc@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

"a looking time ago"

That Reddit has been dead many years

[–] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 31 points 7 hours ago

Some people are just inexperienced, had no good role models, have trouble getting good advice, or just need a sounding board. The internet loves to jump to break-up/divorce for some reason.

[–] Regna@lemmy.world 39 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Most normal issues in a relationship can be worked on, and sometimes it actually helps to ask strangers on the internet to bounce off thoughts, fears or misunderstandings and gain a different perspective.

[–] abientot@reddthat.com 2 points 8 hours ago (2 children)

I agree. The problem is that internet strangers don’t personally know anyone involved, so much vital information and context will be missing. This is leaving aside the vitriolic, judgmental nature of those kinds of online spaces. Personally, I would never take relationship advice from anyone except close friends and family.

[–] bizarroland@lemmy.world 16 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I would actually prefer anonymous advice when I'm having issues in a relationship because typically when people gripe about their relationships they only talk about the bad things and they only talk to people that care about them.

This ends up making it so that the people you are talking to hear all the bad stuff about the other person, and that causes them to start to dislike that other person.

It's too easy to build negative feedback loops that can destroy relationships.

If talking to the internet isn't good and talking to your friends isn't good, then the only thing that's really valid and valuable left would be to talk to a relationship counselor, or a personal therapist, whose only goal is to help you achieve your goals in a way that is healthy for you.

[–] abientot@reddthat.com 3 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I agree with your last paragraph. As for the rest - each to their own. But online relationship advice communities often have their own biases and groupthink, and strangers will frequently “fill in the blanks” with their own assumptions. The advice is rarely objective.

[–] Zagorath@aussie.zone 4 points 4 hours ago

and strangers will frequently “fill in the blanks” with their own assumptions

Yes, but a large number of strangers with different life experiences can help cancel out any one person's personal baggage.

[–] dragnucs@lemmy.ml 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Most often you dont want your close friends and family to know about your problems with your partner for many reasons.

[–] abientot@reddthat.com 2 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I don’t know - I’m the type who feels comfortable discussing anything with my close friends and family.

[–] FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 7 points 7 hours ago

Good for you!

Not everyone is like you

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

It's time to understand how little you understand if you find the eternally lonely, mostly poorly socialized Westerners on Reddit have many valuable takes on interpersonal relationships, lol. That's like coming to me for cooking advice and thinking I'm helpful and experienced because I can tell sugar from salt! 😅

[–] helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Master...I beg of you, bestow upon us your great wisdom, how can one achieve such greatness to tell sugar from salt?

[–] BussyGyatt@feddit.org 2 points 2 hours ago

well, if your eggs are aweet and your oatmeal is salty, ...

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 5 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

If you’ve reached the point where you feel the need to ask for relationship advice but choose not to, that's when breaking up makes sense.

[–] abientot@reddthat.com 1 points 7 hours ago

I think asking for relationship advice is perfectly fine - just not from internet strangers.

[–] SassyRamen@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago

Or it's good not to be irrational and hear an unbais opinion