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[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 198 points 1 year ago (11 children)

Who wants to watch softcore nonsense involving people doing things that are not how sex actually works? Gen Z is first gen to come of age when porn is prolific. Mainstream film can't compete with step siblings getting stuck on the interwebs.

[–] Pistcow@lemm.ee 121 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You don't make passionate love to your wife while she's wearing all her clothes and wake up in the morning with her wearing full makeup?

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 52 points 1 year ago

Where do we get the L-shaped blankets?

[–] eatthecake@lemmy.world 53 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Porn is really not how sex actually works

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 39 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think porn gets it more right than Hollywood does. People in porn at least successfully take their pants off.

[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And no Hollywood, all women don't have an orgasm in 30 seconds! Movie sex would be extremely disappointing in real life.

Well according to Hollywood, sex is either life alteringly amazing, life alteringly traumatic, or interrupted by a phone call.

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[–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 45 points 1 year ago (5 children)

As an elder millennial, porn has been prolific longer than you think. Late 90s and early 2000s LAN parties were half playing video games and half copying vast amounts of porn from each other.

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[–] UnculturedSwine@lemmy.world 123 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Millennial here. I've always found random sex scenes obnoxious. It completely kills the pacing and pulls me out of the story. If you need sex for character development, you can much more easily allude to it and move on. The only time I can think of when it actually made sense for the story was in the movie Her and it was such a mild scene that didn't have any visuals.

[–] 520@kbin.social 26 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I think it worked for some early GOT moments too. It showed the monster that Khal Drogo really was, for example

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[–] Godort@lemm.ee 79 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I'm with Gen Z here. They're absolutely right

[–] MindSkipperBro12@lemmy.world 56 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Just feels awkward, uncomfortable, and unnecessary most of the time.

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[–] FarFarAway@startrek.website 63 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I'm not Gen Z and I hate the damn sex scenes. There was a minute there where netflix would just add one within 15 mins of every show or movie, even if they never showed another one again. It never added to the plot and seemed like it was just there to reel people in. But, it was obnoxious.

Glad they sort of stopped that, although I still find it happens now and again. Hopefully this puts the nail in the coffin.

Maybe I am a prude. So what!

[–] NightOwl@lemmy.one 22 points 1 year ago

It's awkward seeing scenes like that unfold with other people like friends and family. Implying a scene and fading to black is more than enough. And I think many actors would be happier too not having to act out those scenes.

[–] bus_factor@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The issue for me isn't the sex, it's that the scene is irrelevant to the plot. If the sex is relevant to the plot I don't mind, but when it's obviously just slotted in to show tits, that's annoying because it breaks immersion for me. It makes me think about the agenda behind adding that scene instead of thinking about the story I'm watching.

Obvious product placement is kind of in the same category for me. Like Will Smith in I, Robot spending 5 minutes of the movie super excited about receiving some "vintage 2004 Converse All Stars". Like, the movie is set in 2035, but you just had to find a way to plug this year's model of some shoes. Sure, those shoes have looked the same since forever, but the 2004 ones were just something else, man!

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[–] LazyBane@lemmy.world 57 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Doesn't help that sex keeps being written into shows where it doesn't belong.

It's trying to make a show "more adult" in literally the most childish way possible.

That Halo show is a good example of completely needless sex scenes.

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[–] GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 56 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Am a millennial. Sex scenes in movies should follow a simple formula: don’t do sex scenes, or do real sex scenes.

All that softcore, sex under the sheets while wearing a bra nonsense only serves to make watching it with family a bit awkward. Either make it a movie that stands on its own, or make a movie where I can actually watch celebrity people fuck in full explicitness.

Make it porn or not, both is fine, but don’t try to appeal to both sides. That’s just awkward and frustrating to either

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[–] nednobbins@lemm.ee 50 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Is it just Gen Z?

Most movie sex scenes are terrible. They fail as both pornography and as literary devices.

When you put a sex scene, or any other scene in a movie it has to serve some purpose. It can move the plot along, it can show the characters emotions or it can just be there for titillation. If it's just there because someone thinks that the main characters are supposed to smash, it's dumb.

I remember that when we rented "Basic Instinct" you knew how often people re-watched the interrogation scene because the old VHS tapes would get worn at that spot and you could see the screen artifacts.

Two things made that worth watching. The whole movie was about sex so it made sense, both in the movie and for the character. The way to get porn at the time was to walk into a store and buy a magazine. And Sharon Stone was hot, OK 3 reasons.

There absolutely are movies where the sex scenes make sense and are important. David Kronenberg's "Crash" and Kimberly Peirce's "Boys Don't Cry", would have been weird if they didn't include the sex scenes or just left them implied.
The sex scene in, "Team America: World Police", worked because it was a satire of sex scenes in movies.
Pornhub works because their scenes are very explicit.

When you have a boring, unironic, semi-artistic sex scene in a movie that's not otherwise about sex, it's just a distraction.

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[–] Pyr_Pressure@lemmy.ca 50 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Unless you're watching a romance movie there's almost zero point to have a romance plotline.

Pretty tired of the horror movies and action movies that just randomly throw in some love triangle or romance plot to try and make the actual plot more exciting, even though most of the time it makes no sense.

Oh I met you three days ago? MARRY ME HANDSOME!

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[–] Ozymati@lemmy.nz 49 points 1 year ago

I want romance in my romance and rom-coms. I do not want it in my action, thriller, history, sci-fi, fantasy, comedy, or biographical movies. Unless, and this is key, unless it legitimately adds to the movie.

[–] paddirn@lemmy.world 46 points 1 year ago

Porn is porn, I’ll watch that when I want in private. If I’m watching a movie/tv show, I’m watching it for the content, for the storyline or whatever, adding shitty softcore porn to it just dilutes it and makes it unwatchable around friends/family. One of my gripes with Game of Thrones (not high compared to everything else wrong with it) was all the shitty sex scenes they added, which required them to cut out even more content than before. With only ~10 hours per season, they didn’t have alot of time to dick around, but they spent alot of time… dickin’ around.

[–] franklin@lemmy.world 42 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

I don't mind sex scenes but I'm so over forced, low stakes, softcore sex scenes between characters that have nonexistent chemistry.

I still think it's best when it's artfully implied and brief between characters with chemistry.

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[–] TigrisMorte@kbin.social 40 points 1 year ago

I think it more likely that they are sick of the idiot love triangle crutch which so many productions desperately wedge into films it has no place in.

[–] 2ncs@lemmy.world 38 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Gen Z doesn't like sex scene put into the movie by senile board members, so they must not like sex in movies anymore"

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[–] AphoticDev@lemmy.dbzer0.com 38 points 1 year ago (3 children)

That's not just a Gen Z thing, nobody I've ever talked to likes sex scenes.

[–] flumph@programming.dev 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Most of them are just dumb. Like a guy finds out his mom just died in a bear attack, so he and his coworker have passionate sex for the first time.

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[–] PissinSelfNdriveway@sh.itjust.works 36 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Well no shit. Nobody wants to watch sex scenes with their parents, and when rent costs 3 used cars per month they don't have a ton of choice.

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[–] HawlSera@lemm.ee 35 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Actually I think they have the same problem with it we Millennials do, and that we don't find it Charming when a guy acts like a total creep and is rewarded for it because the movie was written by total creeps. Or if our lead is a woman, I'm tired of hearing about how successful and fulfilled she is with her brilliant career that no one takes seriously, because she hasn't found the right man yet, but then she does and discovers that all of her problems are solved by his penis. Because those movies are also made by creeps

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[–] ThatFembyWho@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 year ago (7 children)

First of all. Are there any stories without sex/romance? I personally would love the occasional platonic story. About people who aren't all trying to get in eachothers pants.

I'm not Gen Z (Millenial) but I do get tired of being bombarded with sex, making out, etc. If it's done well and integral to the plot, then it's fine. But honestly less is more. Do I really need a camera to closeup pan the full length of someone's naked body to realize what's going on? After a while it just gets weird, like I am legit waching porn here, am I supposed to be aroused?

The other problem is how flawless they look. I wouldn't mind seeing some real, average looking people for a change. Hold hands or awkwardly kiss after knowing eachother a few months or years, not like "oh hi we just met and it's the two of us alone how convenient hehe guess there's nothing left to do but use our perfect bodies for totally fake sex".

Has anyone ever had sex and thought afterwards, wow that was just like TV/movies/whatever? In my experience it's both more awkward and way hotter. They're not going to script all the little things we enjoy in reality...

[–] evranch@lemmy.ca 35 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are there any stories without sex/romance?

Dredd 2012. Judge Dredd takes on a female apprentice Anderson for a training day. They mop the floor with gangsters and crooked cops. It's a non-stop action thrill ride.

No romance. No sexual tension. They do their jobs.

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[–] NoSleep@discuss.tchncs.de 29 points 1 year ago

This article tells us nothing as it isn't comparing the results to other age groups. The study it cites might though.

[–] randon31415@lemmy.world 27 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Oppenheimer: A man intertwined with US nuclear policy, both when creating the first nuke, and during the cold war. Political intrigue mixed with science!

Execs: "What if it had a sex scene?"

[–] Wolf_359@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Execs (apparently): What if we chose to explore his flaws by showing that he had an extramarital affair?"

Puritans: This biopic should really only show his other flaws. And political intrigue. Sex wouldn't make sense in an R rated film.

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[–] zipzoopaboop@lemmynsfw.com 27 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Just make something that isn't the exact same fucking thing I've seen 12 times, fuck

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[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 26 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's not the sex. It's the cringy romantic bullshit typically surrounding it where everyone treats each other like shit for the sake of drama.

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[–] pulaskiwasright@lemmy.ml 24 points 1 year ago (10 children)

Somehow gen z’s early exposure to porn has made them more prudish than the religious. Literally. I’ve Seen so many posts on Reddit and had real life conversations with gen z people where they’ve said that they hate when couples publicly say their trying for a baby because it means they’re being “creampied” and that’s awkward for them.

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[–] PlasmaDistortion@lemm.ee 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The problem is many filmmakers use romance/relationships/gender/identity as a filler that really doesn’t add to the story. This is compounded when it feels more like pandering to an audience.

[–] DunkelLicht@discuss.tchncs.de 24 points 1 year ago (6 children)

It never bothered me as a kid, but now for some reason I get triggered by the way Hollywood portrays romance. Why is everyone such a HUGE slut? It's such a huge turn off. It is actually really hard to find a film that portrays a healthy loving monogamous relationship.

[–] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago

Turns out, the people who have private sex islands have a terrible view on relationships.

It's not even just about the sex scenes. How many loving sitcom couples/families routinely lie to each other?

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[–] renrenPDX@lemmy.world 24 points 1 year ago

I’m gen x and find that this transition started happening earlier. Once online smut was accessible in early 90’s, what little sex shown on the silver screen became less sought after and just became something we had to sit through awkwardly with family.

[–] kaonashi@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago (3 children)

just cut to a train entering a tunnel and fade to black

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[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 23 points 1 year ago

I'm a horny af millennial and I also don't really care for sex scenes. They add nothing to the story itself, and they don't show enough to be sexy. If you're not going to show full penetration then don't even bother.

[–] masquenox@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago

Generation Xer here... I, too, find the enforced "made-by-numbers" romance and sex cringy, superfluous and utterly banal.

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