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I used to live in an apartment then decided to buy a house for reasons such as wanting to have a yard / outdoor space (wanted to buy a big dog among others), leave city life for suburban life for peace & quiet, family-proof (place where I’d want hypothetical kids to grow up in), etc. After experiencing both I prefer house over apartment.

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[–] Stovetop@lemmy.world 4 points 1 hour ago

I don't think I have much of a preference on apartment or house per se, but I want to live somewhere I own. I've spent too much of my life pissing a portion of each paycheck into the wind just to subsidize a landlord, and there's no value retention once my lease is up.

The only apartments that are for sale in my area are all astronomically expensive, catering to mainly wealthy foreign investors and their rich shithead kids who come here for college. Condos are a bit cheaper, but many of them are ancient, falling apart, tiny, and still going for $800,000+, so I've been looking at houses outside of the city because that's all I can really afford.

Even if it's nothing fancy, it'd be mine. I'd be taking care of it and get whatever nice things I want for me, and not for the leech who owns the property and invests only the bare minimum.

[–] zxqwas@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

When I was alone: apartment. More economical. Did not want to pay for a lot of space I did not use.

Girlfriend and two dogs later: looking for a house.

[–] exasperation@lemm.ee 1 points 3 hours ago

All else being equal, in terms of structure and property itself, I'd rather live in a detached house.

But all else isn't equal. I'll sacrifice my ideal building type in order to live in the specific neighborhood I want to live in, within easy walking distance of amenities like parks, groceries, world class restaurants, bars, and things like that, all while being able to get around by bike, mass transit, or even easy/cheap hailed vehicles like taxis or Ubers. And that means I'm living in a dense urban area, where detached houses are rare and prohibitively expensive.

So I look for neighborhoods where I'd actually like to live, then look for places there with the right number of bedrooms and floor space, and then look to see what is within a feasible budget for myself. The first time I bought a home, I would've preferred to rent, but the building we liked in the neighborhood we liked happened to be condos rather than rentals.

But housing is a package deal. And house versus townhouse/rowhouse/brownstone versus low rise condo versus high rise condo versus apartment versus someone's accessory dwelling unit is only part of that package. And the other parts are more important to me.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 11 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

House. I've accepted the fact that neighbors exist. But the further away they are, the better.

[–] maplehill@lemm.ee 3 points 4 hours ago

Agree. I moved from a post WWII suburb to a town with 112 people to 40 acres and only 1 neighbor. I can't stand people and this is much better.

[–] venotic@kbin.melroy.org 9 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

The pros and cons between either is entirely up to preference.

Apartment

Pros:

  • Not having to worry too much about maintenance, as there are teams of maintenance people to call to have them handle problems.
  • If you live small and do not see the point of a home, apartments are for you.
  • Designated parking lots or areas
  • Some places can be affordable
  • Some cool things can be offered like pools, some community related things .etc
  • You may have some leniency for when you're billed for rent/utilities

The Depends:

  • Bad or Good landowners determine how well you're going to live in an apartment. There's really no strong pro or con because it can vary. You could live in an apartment atmosphere and the landowner doesn't give two shits about you or anyone else except themselves. But you could also live in an apartment atmosphere where the landowner does care about everyone.

  • Bad or Good Tenants can also be a dealbreaker. Good tenants are the ones who leave you the hell alone and actually do not try breaking the lease agreements, they're nice and can be approached without conflict. Bad tenants, everyone knows these types. Blasting music for all to hear, having barking/needy dogs that whine and whimper so you can hear them. Vandalizing the building or in general. Having maintenance tied up because they can't stop being a problem. Having to have police called multiple times.

  • Lease agreements can vary, some may make you feel like you're more restricted than usual, like I know my apartment management don't really like the idea of holes in walls, including ones made by pushpins. They sometimes will do random check arounds of the apartment. It really depends on the agreement.

Cons:

  • Finding affordable apartments
  • Finding apartments that have accessibility, like places to go, jobs to work at .etc
  • Not enough tenant protections
  • Sometimes you don't really feel like you're at home
  • Options like finding different ISPs may be limited

House

Pros

  • You are entitled to do with as you wish, no neighbors except neighborhoods, you have your own rules
  • Your property applies to above
  • You build equity
  • Family expansion is far safer

Cons

  • Good luck finding an affordable home
  • You are subjected to higher rates/bills for utilities
  • You are paying for EVERYTHING that happens either on the property or with the home

A lot of this is actually renting v buying.

[–] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Is this about rent vs buy or freestanding house with yard vs unit in a high rise? Because you could rent a house and buy a condo but I know outside the us bought hirise things are often called apartments.

[–] geckoo@sh.itjust.works 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Second option. My apartment is in an apartment complex - so I guess what you’d call a high rise unit (one of those places with pool, gym, etc. for the residents). I was renting it while living there permanently but when I bought the house I was made an offer to buy it out (they calculated the price based on the amount of rent paid, property value, etc.) and I chose to take the offer so I also still have that apartment and use it quite often when I have work until late at night in the city and stuff.

[–] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 1 points 7 hours ago

well. you are living my dream. downtown condo with like a nice weekend getaway on a nice wooded rural area would be my dream. I degress though. Im a city boy. I like walking, and biking, and transit, and hate cars. I like having many options close to where I am at. I also like the little close community you get. Like my neighbor and I bring up each others packages when we are returning from some place so its right at the door. I also like the security like that. Everyone moves packages inside when they come even if they don't move them further (unless to heavy :) Then also like if I go on vacation I worry less with my condo. Someone would have to break into the complex to then break into my place and would likely draw my neighbors attention if they take to much time or are using something that makes a lot of noise. When I was in a house leaving it for a week could guarantee a break in as it was easy as busting a window. That being said I do totally miss having a nice garden. I can grow things on the balcony but its more work for less. Could literally throw seeds down in spring and get stuff to harvest in fall. I mean theoretically. I put in some work and did prep the space more and water and stuff but im sure I could have been that lazy and get more than I can from a balcony. The reason the balcony is more work is largely watering. With containers you have to water more often and can't over water. With a garden you put in a sprinkler and turn the tap after the sun goes down in the evening and you don't want to do to little but if you over do it, as long as its not to much, its fine.

[–] _haha_oh_wow_@sh.itjust.works 10 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

House because landlords are shittier than contractors on average. I want to own where I live and if someone is being a piece of shit I am free to fire them on the spot.

Also, I want space for my family and a garden.

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

Apartment. Houses feel like prison cells especially in ~~desolate barren primitive wastelands~~ the suburbs where everything requires a car or at least an hour of travel. Anyone with nothing to lose can break into your house and all you can do is make it too much effort. All your neighbors are thieves and will steal your mail, packages, and food orders. They'll also not care if you had an intruder, and they'll care less about how their smoke affects you. Just wear a gas mask if you don't like smoke. It's their property so you'll just need to get over it. Happy and cozy! Let's hope your work schedule doesn't change so you don't need to choose between taking out trash and being able to sleep before work. And definitely get some insurance to replace your replaceable belongings when a high schooler's still-burning joint tossed on your outdated status symbol burns your house and everything in it. Spend every day with your pets and children like it's your last. It's the current year, live like it. You don't need a glorified horse drawn carriage and a happy cozy cottage in the woods. There's no need to maintain a patch of grass to show off you don't need to farm on it. There's no need to live completely alone where no one can help if you're in need. It's unnecessary. If you can't live in a city the problem is you. Go buy an island if you need to live so primitively.

[–] CmdrShepard42@lemm.ee 7 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Lmao where the hell do you live?

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works -1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

In reality and not in Sanrio Town where everyone is kind happy best friends

[–] CmdrShepard42@lemm.ee 1 points 44 minutes ago (1 children)

Sanrio Town? I bet that gets all the laughs in the edgelord forums.

When was the last time you went outside?

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 1 points 42 minutes ago

Yesterday when I made $100 DoorDashing for 5 hours.

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

TIL I live in a prison 🤣

I mean, unless you count this shitty planet as a prison... 🤔

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works -2 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Imagine spending a significant portion of your paycheck on being able to make it to work when you could just spend half a week's worth at a sports or electronics store once every few years. So free.

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (1 children)

That's not a House vs Apartment thing. Its a USA vs EU thing.

The US sucks, both in Apartments and Houses.

[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago

I considered moving to the eu if their cities are actually made for humans who live in the current year

[–] yessikg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 5 hours ago

Apartment. I really hate the suburbs

[–] Ziggurat@fedia.io 12 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Location is the most iportant, meaning that the realistic option is appartment

  • Can get fresh breakfast on the week-end with a 5 minutes walk, and do not need to plan a weekly grocery trip when I have everything down the stairs

  • Do not need to drive home if I get a drink

  • Have access to tons of activities within a reasonable distance, no matter whether I want to learn Korean, watch stand-up comedy or listen to underground heavy metal

  • Kids can quickly get some autonomy compared to suburb where road are full of cars and parents need a car to go every where.

[–] bizarroland@fedia.io 2 points 4 hours ago

I think I lucked out because I live in the suburbs, but it's a very walkable suburb. There are sidewalks, there is public transportation, and I can walk to the grocery store and back in under a mile.

There are parks nearby within walking distance, with sidewalks between my house and the park for kids to play in, and all of the main streets have bike lanes.

I live in America, this is not like European normal standard.

Oregon and Washington and most of California have a lot going for it as far as human amenities in suburban spaces.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 25 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

In descending order:

  1. House in the city

  2. Apartment in the city

  3. Cabin in the mountains

  4. Homeless in the city

  5. Homeless in the mountains

  6. Japanese-style coffin capsule

♾️. Anything in suburbia

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

Even countyside europe is better than suburbia, atleast there you have nature around you constantly!

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 1 points 8 hours ago (2 children)

And better public transit than suburbia, maybe even better than the city it's near

[–] TheWeirdestCunt@lemm.ee 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Nah I live in the countryside in England and public transport is shit. One bus every hour and a half if you're lucky and it only goes to one place, you're looking at 2 hours minimum to go to the next village over that's about 2 miles away assuming all the busses you need show up on time.

It's faster to walk most of the time but sometimes the fields that the footpaths go through have bulls in them so you can't get past.

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 1 points 5 hours ago

I mean I lived in the suburbs in the US and there was just zero.

So a terrible bus experience is better than literally no option.

Couldn't walk anywhere, my road connected only to a 55 mph 4 land road with no sidewalk.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 hours ago

Wow wow wow. Slow down. Country side is still shit

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 1 points 8 hours ago

And better public transit than suburbia, maybe even better than the city it's near

[–] glimse@lemmy.world 15 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

House.

I want to play music at a reasonable volume and not worry that I'm bothering someone. I also never want to hear my neighbors' music.

[–] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

It's a sad fact that much of the problems people have with apartments is simply due to their low quality construction. It's perfectly possible to build a sound-proof apartment.

[–] glimse@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I lived in a condo with thick concrete walls and floors but there's only so much you can do about the doors and windows.

It wasn't unbearably loud but I was gifted a paint and was mortified to learn my neighbors could hear me learning to play thanks to the vibrations

[–] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Same is true for most houses though.

[–] CmdrShepard42@lemm.ee 1 points 41 minutes ago

I live in more modern suburban neighborhood where homes are close together and can hear the dude who lives four houses down on the same side of the street as me play his shitty rock music all night. Mainly, it's the bass that carries since it's a long wavelength but occasionally mids and highs as well.

[–] glimse@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago

Not really when the windows in my house are nowhere near my neighbor's. My condo had a central staircase and a rear walk-up that were both well-uses

[–] CmdrShepard42@lemm.ee 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

We need to bring back the Jeffrey Dahmer era of apartment construction.

[–] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 hours ago

That....is quite the sentence!

[–] ThrowawayPermanente@sh.itjust.works 13 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

I actually love apartments, but nice big ones. I love having a gym and pool that I don't have to personally maintain, I love being up high and having a good view and a nice breeze on the balcony, and being walking distance to the metro. A detached house obviously beats the pants off a small, dark, poorly ventilated apartment with no amenities, which is probably why they cost 10X as much.

[–] fruitycoder@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 hours ago

I really liked living in an apartment. Simple living is pretty nice tbh.

I would never go back to renting. I'll riot first lol.

Honestly even my best landlords sucked vs just being able to fix it myself.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 30 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

I can't share my walls with people. I lived in a townhouse once. It was awful. Train tracks 10' out the back door, constantly smelling what my neighbors are cooking or smoking, and got my car broken into at least twice and the pile who did it bragged in my face about it.

Fucking people. What a bunch of bastards.

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

House I don’t have to hear my neighbors. I don’t have to smell them when I walk out in the hallway.

I don’t have to hear their radios blaring at all hours. If something goes wrong in the house, it’s up to me to fix it. IfI’m in an apartment, the landlord may or may not fix anything. House values normally will go up. Which means at some point down the road I can actually sell it. Get some money out of it that increase in value will account for whatI had to put into the house to keep it running. In an apartment I have nothing. I’m just literally giving the money to someone .

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 6 points 11 hours ago

When in China I love a nice big apartment because that’s what most families have access to especially if you want to live downtown. Countryside houses are nice but I prefer being able to just go out and do what I want. That said, I recently was walking around the countryside with my child and it is quite nice. Only 5 drive to small city and 20 to big city.

In America I 100% prefer a big house. I’ve lived in all of the above and since most American cities suck imo I would prefer to have my own land and space. Really makes me miss living in eastern piedmont with beautiful mountain views every time you get up.

In Japan I would also want a house! Best of both worlds were you can have your own big house and live downtown. You might not have much of a yard though. My dream would be this would a backyard big enough to play with the family, grill, and hang laundry.

[–] rtxn@lemmy.world 16 points 14 hours ago

Depends on the location. House in a European-style suburb (grid streets, mixed-use zoning, good public transit) over apartment, but anything in an American-style suburb (long, winding streets, car-centric, Euclidean zoning) is an instant deal breaker.

[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 5 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Apartment, but only because I can't stand the thought of investing* in something that's stuck in one location forever.

My dream dwelling would be a houseboat. I get the benefits of owning my dwelling but retain the ability to physically relocate it.

*As if I could even afford that lol. I doubt I'm even gonna live long enough to afford a houseboat ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[–] MajorHavoc@programming.dev 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Have you considered full time RV living as a step towards the houseboat? Small used RVs are cheaper than most cars, in some places.

[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 2 points 7 hours ago

I have! I'm thinking this should be my first step once I finish grad school and get something resembling a stable income. It'll also force me to downsize my stuff. I'm a serial hobbyist and have... entirely too much stuff for any kind of compact living arrangement lol

[–] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 10 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Definitely house, preferably owned. I rented my previous apartment and had to run a lot of jobs through the landlord. Now, if something goes wrong or if I want to hang something with screws, I can just go ahead. And I love having a back yard. Front yard meh, just work, no joy.

Downside is that my house is not exactly well maintained and it was built in the sixties. So I'll need to invest in some stuff in the next 5 to 10 years.

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[–] bstix@feddit.dk 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I'm beginning to consider the idea of having an apartment but then also a plot of land with just a shed or cottage. Something like that. I'd like to spend more time outside in most of the year but also keep the convenience of an apartment during winter. I have a house in a good location now, so it'll probably not happen unless something drastic happens. Maybe when the kids move out.

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