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[–] nutsack@lemmy.world 4 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

sometimes you bring on a ceo just to get some controversial thing done. they can eat the blame and then leave

[–] Tiuku@sopuli.xyz 7 points 3 hours ago

Ohh you mean the "pay for every little thing" -feature? Dang I really liked that

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Is the signature feature that women initiate or was that some other app?

[–] TheFriar@lemm.ee 14 points 5 hours ago
[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 30 points 8 hours ago (4 children)

There's a big problem with the "women message first" gimmick, and it's that they just don't.

If they don't simply let the match expire, you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of "hey."

Maybe one in ten will actually send a message that genuinely starts a conversation.

[–] nutsack@lemmy.world 12 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

it would work better if it was "women swipe first'. men can look at and swipe the women who swiped them already. this solves two problems:

  1. women are not seen by anyone they don't want to be
  2. men don't need to spend hours swiping hundreds of women

please give me 1 million dollars

[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 1 points 25 minutes ago

Well cultural habits are slow to change. I suspect it would take some 20 years to change the dynamics such than women are always expected to make the first move.

Bumble was well positioned to push for that change, unfortunately earning revenue has a priority, they are are a business after all. Still their gimmick got the ball rolling, we'll see who picks it up next.

[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 58 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

I literally saw so many profiles being like “I don’t message first”, like do you even understand what the app you’ve signed up for is?

[–] kitnaht@lemmy.world 5 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Well, men CAN message first, as of like 8 months ago.

[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 2 points 1 hour ago

I did hear about that.

[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 17 points 7 hours ago

I always wondered if they realised we actually can't send the first message.

[–] Fredselfish@lemmy.world -4 points 7 hours ago (3 children)

Yeah I can see how women message first will tank a dating app. That fucking stupid. I get it that women get bombarded with messages from guys on dating apps. But guess what all the time I used the apps 0% was I ever messaged by a woman.

Women don't chase men because they don't have too. I knew several women I help set up their dating profiles. They would get a 1000 hits, mostly guys says "hey" or the worse be :hey baby".

How I realize just how easy and why I never had problems with dating apps. You got to give a woman more then hey and calling them baby is just cringe. Then you get the guys straight up asking for sex or nudes. Anyways point is having the app where the men can't make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

Hell most of them like to just scroll, none of them were interested in making the first move.

[–] bravesirrbn@lemmy.world 15 points 1 hour ago

You literally listed a bunch of reasons why men shouldn't be allowed to message first

[–] jonathan@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 hour ago

I'm not that conventionally attractive and Bumble worked great for me in my late 30s. People on different platforms are looking for different things. Bumble had its niche and it was very successful there, even if it was not for you like the other apps we're not for me.

[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 24 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

having the app where the men can't make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

I mean, it did work though. It was one of the top dating apps for a long time.

[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee -2 points 47 minutes ago

Work as in actually help meet people? Not really.