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[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Is the signature feature that women initiate or was that some other app?

[–] TheFriar@lemm.ee 6 points 1 hour ago
[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 14 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

There's a big problem with the "women message first" gimmick, and it's that they just don't.

If they don't simply let the match expire, you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of "hey."

Maybe one in ten will actually send a message that genuinely starts a conversation.

[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 33 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

I literally saw so many profiles being like “I don’t message first”, like do you even understand what the app you’ve signed up for is?

[–] kitnaht@lemmy.world 1 points 56 minutes ago

Well, men CAN message first, as of like 8 months ago.

[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 14 points 4 hours ago

I always wondered if they realised we actually can't send the first message.

[–] Fredselfish@lemmy.world 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah I can see how women message first will tank a dating app. That fucking stupid. I get it that women get bombarded with messages from guys on dating apps. But guess what all the time I used the apps 0% was I ever messaged by a woman.

Women don't chase men because they don't have too. I knew several women I help set up their dating profiles. They would get a 1000 hits, mostly guys says "hey" or the worse be :hey baby".

How I realize just how easy and why I never had problems with dating apps. You got to give a woman more then hey and calling them baby is just cringe. Then you get the guys straight up asking for sex or nudes. Anyways point is having the app where the men can't make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

Hell most of them like to just scroll, none of them were interested in making the first move.

[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 6 points 47 minutes ago* (last edited 47 minutes ago)

having the app where the men can't make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

I mean, it did work though. It was one of the top dating apps for a long time.