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Don't have to spend money just to hang around.

Not to mention there are no more third spaces. When we leave our home, besides going to a park or something, you’re expected to pay at almost all establishments you go to. As in, you have to pay rent to use infrastructure you don’t own, so why not just stay at home since you’ve already paid for using that.

I think it's an issue with entertaining themselves. Extroverts seek entertainment through social interaction while introverts tend to be able to entertain themselves just fine.

Even my introverted friends were getting stir crazy in 2020. By the end of that year I was the only one I knew who was still perfectly content to be snuggled under a blanket putzing around online all day... I mean working from home.

It was really weird to me too. Like, if you don’t like your home and being by yourself, maybe you’re not a good influence on others.

I was one of those extroverted people going absolutely nuts, and I never stopped working. However, my leadership had split us into 2 separate shifts, and so I was seeing the same 5 people every day versus a normally bustling workcenter. I joked to one of my Airmen that I wasnt sure if she was real or a figment of my imagination to keep me company.

I was literally constantly exhausted even though I wasnt allowed to do anything aside from work/home.

It did give me new insight to one of my best friends though, who is an extreme introvert. She lived with me for a brief while in our 20s, and I would get so frustrated when she would come home and immediately disappear into her room, and then Id have to fight her tooth and nail to get her to come hang on the weekends. I really was like "Why tf do you live with me if you obviously dont like me?" I always thought her "Nah Im tired" was just an excuse, and it made me feel really bad about myself.

Now? I definitely understand the difference better, and Im a lot more patient.

Humans are social creatures. Many animals get depressed too when they don't have another of its kind to live around.

Home is the best, if you can't stay home and be happy you need to change your home

I enjoy my house, and my things, and use them often. I enjoy my home life. I still feel the need to go out and experience the world beyond my tiny bubble. I get great joy simply out of breaking up my routine, meeting new people, seeing new places, going to local gathering spots. When I am done with all that I also have the benefit of socializing without having a pile of dishes to do either.

Your assessment is right for some people, and you probably have contact with a group that leads to a bias in believing this is what people, generally, who need to do things beyond their house, are like. It is not true for most though. Most people like their homes, and home lives, a lot. They also feel the need to go out and do something other than home life, regularly, in order to be happy, in the long term. Doesn't matter how awesome my house is, doesn't matter how many skills I am working on, or how many hobbies I have, if I don't do something out of the ordinary, on a fairly regular basis, life begins to feel dull, and no amount of improving my home will alleviate that.

I play music, games, code , read. Just with music alone I'm already home stuck because of my work schedule. Seriously there is so much in piano technique that with a full time job ur pretty much going straight home and practicing.

Given you care about your hobbies.

yeah, and the modern world revolves around them.

Craft store is fun! Get some stuff to decorate your "command center."

I wouldn't mind giving your wife a ride.

The dream...

Please tell us more about this stupid wife.

IKR. I'm at home at least 30 hours per day.

I get that from having to leave my house and go to work.