I keep it simple and default to they/them unless they mention some specific preference. Doesn't matter if they appear to be very traditionally masculine or feminine, or anything in between.

[–] doctorn@r.nf 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

In English I try to, but the part about my language was true though. We don't have a 'they', 'they' and 'she' uses the same word with us. (Zij)

[–] ruination@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 9 months ago

Ah, that's understandable. My native tongue doesn't really have gendered pronouns so they/them feels right at home for me (though ironically, the people in my country are mostly conservative and bigoted and wouldn't accept nonbinary)