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On the tube in central London, two 20-something women got on the train, one was leading the other on a collar and leash as she crawled.
The one holding the leash sat down on the seat, the leashed one sat on the floor at her feet.
I think that's gross. I'm all for consenting adults doing whatever, but I'm not consenting to be part of your sex life in public because that's what gets you off. I also think it's immature. I think BDSM is immature really.
I'd argue there's a very pleasant and even artistically beautiful side to the bdsm community. The problem is that, like any niche subculture, the ones that tell you about it are unbearable and the bearable ones aren't out here showing off.
I think the people into that scene really need therapy. It's like passive self injurious behaviour.
Someone on Reddit once talked about working on porn sets, and said that the actresses all had this vacant quality. I think when you make your sex life about being a violent commodity rather than simple human intimacy and mutual pleasure that it's unhealthy. Also some women have been murdered in the scene, and I think it hides sociopathic people fairly well.
Wild take at the end of a comment about being overtly sexualy kinky in public
I do though. I think it sucks the human connection out of sex and numbs people to their feelings. I think people who are into it are using it for passive self injurious behaviour.
I read this article about a woman who was killed in bondage in a BDSM household where her "master" who killed her had a few other "slaves". All the women were fairly chubby and said when interviewed they hadn't had many relationships before, it was obvious they were super vulnerable and in the hands of a sociopath. At first they defended him and covered up for him, but then came forward to the investigation and told the truth about what their household was like.
I'm not saying that playing around with a little kink isn't ok, a spanking for example can be quite nice. And whatever I might think, you do you, just be safe and have self respect, and leave strangers in public places out of it.
I was with you until that last part.
I don't need anyone to agree with my opinion about it, it's ok. But I think we can all agree that the women on the train were being inappropriate.
I think it's gross ... Because of the gross stuff that's probably on every surface in a public transit environment.