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Should I date now if I have to move in a few months to a place that is hours away by car and would likely have more potential suitors? (beehaw.org)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Please be kind as this topic is a pain point for me. I'm feeling the pressure of finding my significant other because I'm at an age where it seems like everyone in my social media feed is getting engaged, married, or having kids. The issue is I have a huge transition coming up and will have to move in a few months to a place that is a few hours away by car. I will have a lot more free time soon before moving, but then after I've moved to the new location I will be extremely busy and worry that I won't be able to sustain a relationship, let alone a long distance one. However, I am very aware that the clock is ticking and something else to consider is that I need to rely heavily on dating apps currently, whereas there would likely be more potential suitors where I'm headed to. What if I do find the right person during this seemingly short window of time? What if we could make the long distance work or he wanted to move with me? Or do you think it is smarter and there is more potential for me to meet someone at the new location after getting situated? Any advice or suggestions are welcome. Thank you!

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[–] cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world 19 points 3 months ago (1 children)

IMO you should date now but if you click with someone definitely be upfront about your upcoming move.

A couple of months after my husband and I started dating, he got a really good job offer in another state. He told me about it, and I didn't ask him to stay, nor did I want to follow him. I figured if it was meant to be, even if he moved, we would still find our way back to each other someday. He decided to stay. We've been together 23 years.