You're the only person on earth. Does your gender matter anymore? Hair colour or length? Cock or boob size? What you put on your face or wear? Whether you like sewing, math, fishing, dancing, or frolicking through a field? No one's there. You don't have an identity because you're never being identified by anyone. You're not goth, gay, feminine, trans, or Scottish—you don't know what those things are and actually never will because they won't be invented. I mean, you could invent them by some astronomically improbably chance, but how, why, and what for? They're all made up things along with all the socially expected tropes that come with those "identities".

So what you perceive as "gay" is just nothing for a lot of people. They wouldn't have considered it, nor would care, you'd be struggling to hold their attention as you tried to explain it and they'd forget it in moments anyway. These people say "I am me", not "I am a..."

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

Some of those things wouldn’t exist anymore but others while the words and grouping may not the concept they represent would. I am gay, not because society puts me in that box, but because society has drawn a box around where I sit and given it the label gay. If I were the only person I would still crave the touch of another woman and not of a man. I may not feel insecure about the size of my breasts but I’d be uncomfortable if I didn’t have them.