SPD has "limited value" to the small biased sample of locals I know. They're very unpopular in some communities, especially queer/minority communities around where these inspections took place. But as always, many others aren't directly impacted and so they tend to be quietly neutral or supportive of the police.
eupraxia
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I went just once in Capitol Hill, Seattle. If I was more of an extroverted type it probably could have been cool - it was a concert venue featuring a bunch of queer artists, and a lot of tents for queer community organizations - mutual aid, healthcare, counseling, etc. There's definitely a way to make Pride useful for the community. But it's really just bringing together a community that always existed regardless - and imo no reason to wait til June to start getting involved and organized 😁
I point conversion therapy out as an egregious example of persecution, but there's plenty more, through a variety of avenues. Many fly under the radar as things that sound less intense - schools notifying parents if kids go by a nickname or change how they present is one that's come up a lot lately.
From experience - lots of people thankfully have a "live our lives in peace" attitude - but unfortunately even a minority of bigots can make our lives pretty difficult and divisive. Especially if they're allowed to do so by other people who don't agree themselves, but also don't fight it when they see it.
And so sure, the message has been coopted for mainstream audiences by corporations running ads like "[sterile uplifting music] at CitiBank, we think you're people! [stock rainbow flags waving]" If you know anyone who's queer, you know there's real difficulty that comes with it, but also a resilient community takes care of each other the best they can. Pride ads are how most people know of us, but they're not even close to representing us or the stakes we face. They're pretty much entirely irrelevant to us - we never asked for them, and they certainly don't help.
A lot more people identify with LGBT+ than there used to be, because it's a very open label and people are more able to identify with it in accepting environments.
There's a hell of a lot more people now who are... pretty much cishet, but maybe have some 5% attraction to the same sex, or they're attracted to trans/nonbinary people, and so they consider themselves bisexual or pansexual, etc. when 5-10 years ago they probably wouldn't have.
The specific number starts to mean a lot less when we remember the attitude of those people answering "do you identify with LGBT" has quickly shifted from "oh, well I'm definitely not gay!!" to "uhh sure, why not?" in a very short amount of time. I'm of the opinion this doesn't reflect a change in our baseline behavior and is... not even consistently measurable given the diverging, shifting cultural context.
Talking in broad strokes all about balancing "freedom of identity/attraction" and "religious freedom" makes for a decent-sounding empathetic viewpoint prioritizing individual liberty. I understand where this is coming from, I don't disagree myself, but then again who would?
And that's why we have to get into the specifics of "forcefully spreading their belief system and values to others" because that's what happens to queer people as status quo. We're legally and socially discriminated out of a lot of aspects of public life and often carry deep trauma from wrath and abuse incurred on the way. Conversion therapy is still legal in many places for fucks sake! The hell is that if not forcefully spreading a belief system?
Often times, the term this is justified under is "freedom of religion" - but really it's freedom to control and abuse others due to religious justification. The two freedoms are not equatable, therefore the balanced center between is not a neutral position.
Corporate pride advertising is super forced and very few queer people are actually on board with it. The term is "rainbow capitalism" and it's pretty derisive. Unfortunately that's all of what some people know of us - they don't know us as people, as communities, just like them; they know us as a rainbow flag on a TV screen and as a Tucker/LWT/[whoever's got opinions about us today] talk show segment, and so that's all they think we are. Nobody likes this, queer people least of all.
While I do broadly agree, I feel it's important to note generational trauma is a real and separate concept. It just refers to the idea that trauma can be passed down from parents to children by repeating the same behavior or perpetuating the same ideas that traumatized them. This can be especially apparent in children of immigrants, religious extremists, or survivors of abuse, all for completely different reasons. It's very common and worth talking about.
I've heard this as a sticking point for some people, and I think it's fair. Some don't enjoy putting themselves in the shoes of a complete fuckup main character who's already made a ton of terrible decisions before the game's even started and will continue to do so despite your best efforts.
But, worth noting this is part of the appeal for a lot of other folks, and the game is going somewhere really special with it. It's not bad writing, it's a necessary component of the story being told.
semi-related tangent, I think some people misunderstand this kind of thing as "well if he was trans it would be fine."
when really, no, a trans comedian would just write different and much better jokes about this subject matter because they're immersed in it and have a deeper understanding of the community and the experience.
It feels like a sequel honestly. Kind of incredible how many of the core mechanics from the base game they threw out in service of telling a new story differently.
Wasn't really allowed to harbor or express anger as a kid. Now I can't summon an ounce of rage, even when it's appropriate and helpful. It's not ideal, so I spend a lot of time meditating, dropping away other emotions in hopes of finding a spark of something in there. Nothing yet, but I've found a number of other useful things in the process.
Mindfulness is a great skill to build to debug issues like this. It's slow, painful sometimes, and doesn't always feel worthwhile, but it's definitely worth taking the time to try meditating to get closer to your base emotions and how they appear.
Worth remembering too that what you're looking for probably isn't a huge shift in thinking, at least in the short term. Incremental progress over time is all it takes. Some people are shades of tightly wound and that's okay. You're who you are for a reason and it's worth being kind to yourself when unhelpful thoughts appear. Not to excuse yourself of behavior you don't want to maintain, but to care for and guide yourself toward a simple step in the right direction.
Outer Wilds, to my estranged family. I think they could use a new religion and that game's probably a better place to start.
Yep absolutely!
For me, it felt like my life was quickly progressing away from a youth I was not ready to leave for inexplicable reasons. In the end I ended up taking a nuclear option once I realized how uncomfortable I was with my future, and while it's not been easy it's been absolutely worth it.
Even though you may be stuck in the same habits and mistakes, they can be rewritten and you'll be surprised how quickly life changes once you find what makes you authentically happy. A lot can happen in 3 years and I guarantee you'll still be young at 24. You can still be young at twice that. There's a lot of life ahead of you, especially once you take calculated risks to improve your future and make the most of the youth you still have. You may not know what exactly will make you happy, but trust in yourself and your judgement to find it as you go.