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People who had a quarter-life crisis in their 20's, did you do right to stress? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Without going into too much detail...

21
Dropped out of Uni (ie. I've started falling behind 'the pack')
Still living with my parents (have lived alone for periods)
Frustrated, have been repeating the same mistakes and life is currently going in a loop.
Not fully settled on a specific career
Thinking of a couple of nuclear options I could try to move things on.

I want to know if I have reason to stress or if I should just give it time and enjoy the ride. Seeing as any sort of renewed degree-pursuing will eat up another several years starting anew from square one.

Edit: Thanks for all of this life advice everyone. It is genuinely really reassuring

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[–] eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Yep absolutely!

For me, it felt like my life was quickly progressing away from a youth I was not ready to leave for inexplicable reasons. In the end I ended up taking a nuclear option once I realized how uncomfortable I was with my future, and while it's not been easy it's been absolutely worth it.

Even though you may be stuck in the same habits and mistakes, they can be rewritten and you'll be surprised how quickly life changes once you find what makes you authentically happy. A lot can happen in 3 years and I guarantee you'll still be young at 24. You can still be young at twice that. There's a lot of life ahead of you, especially once you take calculated risks to improve your future and make the most of the youth you still have. You may not know what exactly will make you happy, but trust in yourself and your judgement to find it as you go.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Oh wow, you read my mind! Yes, I don't feel ready to move on from my youth just yet because I feel it was deficient in a few things (especially with the 2 years lost to COVID). I'm quite tempted to just say f**k to career development, move out to the city where my childhood friends live, get a minimum wage job, and just spend some time with them for a bit. Just to meet the needs of my current self, now.