[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 28 points 4 months ago

That's a wild question, cause for me and most of the people I know, a fantasy version of myself with double my income would mean not worrying about groceries, maybe a short trip out of the country once a year, being able to pay off debts, and affording some medical procedures that we've been putting off. Maybe saving some money so my kid isn't homeless in a few decades. Not some life of leisure.

To answer your question, though, it would be categorically worse.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 10 points 5 months ago

From what I've read, biological parentage can get preference even if the child had been living in another household. You'd think what you said would be the case, but state legal opinions are not a thing I would be super trusting of if I were in that position given how our rights are in a precarious position, to say the least. IANAL, but everyone should write a will. That's better than letting lawyers and judges guess at what you want.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 25 points 5 months ago

Not an expert, but there is a lot less ground to legally challenge the partnership if a couple is married. If a couple isn't married and one of them suddenly dies without a will or some sort of similar situation, the deceased's family can fight for everything from how their funeral is executed, custody of children, or even control of finances. Obviously it would involve some sort of legal intervention, but marriage would supercede any familial relationships in most cases. I'm not sure how common it is, but I've definitely heard stories about this in gay relationships where estranged family ends up getting legal guardianship of children because the parents weren't officially married and one died.

I'm married and, though I don't think I can numerate all the ways, we are definitely more financially stable than we were when we were just dating. Even just the convenience of being able to do certain legal and medical stuff on my partner's behalf makes a big difference. And that's isn't to say it's for everyone, but it is worth investigating if you have specific concerns.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 16 points 6 months ago

This, the OGL, the Pinkerton incident, the continued decline in quality products. Talk about squandering the opportunity of a lifetime with the renaissance of D&D.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 61 points 6 months ago

The feeling that things might get better.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 53 points 8 months ago

Not Australian, but looking through the proposal, it seemed pretty basic. It's pretty sad that even a relatively toothless measure like this couldn't pass. Though I'm definitely not throwing stones, I'm in America.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 39 points 11 months ago

It really is a beautiful movie. Rock solid cast, charming and funny, but can be absolutely devastating at moments. And the "flowers" might be one of my favorite moments in a movie, full stop. It is so simple, but fits so neatly into their characters.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 18 points 11 months ago

Who could blame the greatest minds from being entranced by a mysterious "X"?

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 10 points 11 months ago

Michigan, but I know what you mean.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 55 points 11 months ago

A similar thing happened in my school with a card game called Euchre. Heaven forbid the students enjoy the small amount of time between bells or in a class once their work is complete.

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 38 points 11 months ago

Does anyone else double-take when you see a Roger Ebert review pop up?

[-] TommySalami@lemm.ee 22 points 11 months ago

Not a single gift, but my MIL has this obsession with keeping things "even" for the holidays so everyone receives the same number of gifts. This inevitable means that everyone receives a set quantity of filler gifts. So I get grouped in with my BILs, who are nice but we are different people. She'll split sock packs between us, bulky shirts that don't fit me, car and garage accessories that I have no use for, etc. I got a single roll of duct tape once. Not even good duct tape, a thin dollar-store roll. I've said so many times I don't need a pile of things to unwrap, that I'd be far happier with just one, thoughtful gift I could really use instead of having to haul a boxful of cheap useless things home. But nope, gotta get those numbers up.

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