[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 50 points 9 months ago

If we're talking about the same person, there was one multi-image post that was unquestionably over the line and one or two more that were (IMO) borderline. Given the context provided by the one post we chose not to give the benefit of any doubt.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 59 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

You must be new here. Read the rules.

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I can't believe that I have to post this, but AI kiddie stuff is still kiddie stuff. It may or may not be illegal where you live, but it is not OK to post on this instance and we will ban you with extreme prejudice. Thank you.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 43 points 11 months ago

That comes later. It's a lot easier to run a query on 0 posts than more complicated criteria.

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Hi everyone! We are once again purging empty communities. It's happening in a day or two. Make an on-topic post in your empty comm if you want to have it not purged.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 109 points 11 months ago

I'll take "discussions I won't get into with a transwoman unless I know her incredibly well and probably not even then" for $1000, Alex.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 73 points 11 months ago

To be clear, Ada has her own imperatives and her own community, and I'm not here to judge how she runs her instance. lemmy.blahaj.zone means a lot to a lot of people, and as a queer weirdo myself I appreciate that a place like it exists on the lemmyverse.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 41 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

At this point Ada apparently had some communication with @gavi@lemmynsfw.com on Matrix, to which I was not privy. He told me, and I said that I had responded to Ada via Lemmy message. He had to step away, so I took over correspondence with Ada via Matrix.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 76 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

As requested, the correspondence between me and the blahaj admin, posted with her permission. It started with this message (her* original message is on the bottom, my reply is on top):

  • I had used "they" for Ada earlier, which was mistaken. My apologies.
[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 41 points 11 months ago

As a horny queer person I, too, wish that this had gone a different way.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 51 points 11 months ago

Yeah that's about the size of it.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 73 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Jailbait is by definition people that are under legal age, or at least pretending to be. If someone is of legal age they by definition cannot be jailbait. The appeal there is the violation of the statutory taboo, the allure of the forbidden fruit. That is not OK and we won't tolerate that.

If a grownup has a round face and is wearing braces, which is the post that I suspect launched this whole kerfluffle, that's just how they look. I'm not going to tell them that they can't be sexy, or you that you can't be into them being sexy, because of their face or their dental work. Now, you can see why someone might be concerned that someone that has braces might be underage, since many people that are underage have braces. But once we've confirmed that they aren't underage, that should be the end of it.

[-] MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com 62 points 11 months ago

I don't know if that's true. I mean, maybe? Or maybe they just don't want to see certain things and if so, that's their prerogative. Some people may call this a platitude, but I truly think that's the beauty of the Fediverse -- diverse views, diverse approaches, diverse comfort levels.

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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com to c/lemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com

One of the admins at lemmy.blahaj.zone asked us to purge a community and all of its users because they thought it was full of child sexual abuse material, aka CSAM, fka kiddy porn. We assured them that we had checked this comm thoroughly and we were satisfied that all of the models on it were of age.

The admin then demanded we purge the comm because they mistook it for CSAM, and claimed that the entire point of the community was to make people think it was CSAM. We vehemently disagreed that that was in fact the point of the community, but they decided to defederate from us anyway. That is of course their choice, but we will not purge our communities or users because someone else makes a mistake of fact, and then lays the responsibility for their mistake at our feet.

If someone made a community intended to fool people into thinking it was kiddy porn, that would be a real problem. If someone of age goes online and pretends -- not roleplays, but pretends with intent to deceive -- to be a child and makes porn, that is a real problem. Nobody here is doing that.

One of the reasons we run our instance the way that we do is that we want it to be inclusive. We don't body shame, and we believe that all adults have a right to sexual expression. That means no adult on our instance is too thin, fat, bald, masculine, old, young, cis, gay, etc., to be sexy, and that includes adults that look younger than some people think they should. Everyone has a right to lust and to be lusted after. There's no way to draw a line that says "you can't like adult people that look like X" without crossing a line that we will not cross.

EDIT: OK, closing this post to new comments. Everything that needs saying has been said. Link to my convo with the blahaj admin here.

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Welcome new users! (lemmynsfw.com)

Hi all! Mikey here, one of your fearless admins. We've had so many new users lately that I wanted to bid you all welcome! Have a look around. You'll need an account to see the nsfw content, which is most of it. Feel free to sign up for one -- we rarely go more than a few hours, maybe a day at most, without zeroing the application queue.

We like new people and we strongly encourage to you participate, not just lurk! But before you do, please check the rules in the right-hand sidebar of the main page (or here) and also give the ol' FAQ a quick clickeroonie: https://docs.lemmynsfw.com/docs/faq/.

Our purpose is to be a safe, friendly place for NSFW "research" on the Fediverse . I know a lot of you are coming over from reddit and so I would like to stress that despite superficial similarities, we are not reddit and we don't want to be reddit. The vibe around here is different and some things that were common over there are not acceptable around here. Please make note of our content restrictions. We are especially picky about respect and consent, and we take our sourcing policy seriously.

Things are still pretty new around here and there are a lot of rough edges, so we hope you'll try to bear with us. Lemmy isn't fully featured yet, so running a Lemmy instance, let alone an NSFW instance, is kind of like trying to build a plane while it's already in the air.

If you have any new user questions you can comment here, post in c/asklemmynsfw, or if you use matrix, there's a public operations page: https://matrix.to/#/#lemmynsfw:matrix.org (what Lemmy is to Reddit and Mastodon is to Twitter, matrix is to Slack or Discord). You can also message me or another admin, but matrix will probably get you a faster reply.

Thanks everyone! Welcome once again, and I hope to see you around.

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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com to c/lemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com

Hi all! Apparently there are a couple of Lemmy apps now where the "report" button is right next to the "share" button, and so we've been getting inundated with a bunch of reports that aren't actually real. One of those apps defaults to putting no text in the box where you're supposed to put in the reason for reporting, and the other one defaults to "Spam or Abuse".

We don't have the resources to go chasing down all bajillionty-twelve of those reports we're getting on the off chance that one or two may be real, so for the time being any report with either nothing or "Spam or Abuse" in the subject line will be swept into the circular file, unless we can tell just by looking at the post and not clicking anything (no nsfw tag, obvious off-topic spam) that it's a bad post.

Thanks!

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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com to c/lemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com

Please stop reporting all OF models as spam. If a post is off-topic, report is as off-topic. If community rules forbid OF models from posting, report that. If a user is flooding a sub with multiple posts a day in a row, that's a legit report as well.

Otherwise a post by an OF model is not in and of itself spam, even if it is made by a female with the temerity to control her own sexuality.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com to c/lemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com

Hi all! As promised, here is the proposed text of the newest version of the rules. The staff has gone through like eight drafts and literally thousands and thousands of matrix posts to get here, so please be kind. You can see @limeey's comment on the transparency post if you want more insight into how this sausage was made.

We are opening these rules to commentary from the community before they go into effect. To be clear, this isn't a vote, but we will take all community feedback into account and answer whatever questions we can before finalizing anything.

Please keep in mind that we are not Reddit, we do not have Reddit's resources, and safety and consent are our priorities.

I'll post the draft in two parts in two comments: The new sidebar, and the FAQ/clarifications page.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by MikeyMongol@lemmynsfw.com to c/lemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com

About a quarter of the communities here have 0 posts in them. We're going to start pruning the 0-post comms in the next couple of days. If you have a comm with 0 posts that you want to keep alive, please make an on-topic post in it. Otherwise you're going to lose it.

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