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Following the spirit of spreading across the Fediverse (and because my main instance is down so many times, because diverse reasons) I'm intrigued about the joining instance process, because I honestly don't know what criteria to have in order to join another one if I ever want to do it.

That made me curious of how you decided to join?

I firstly join to lemmy.fmhy.ml thanks to Spez and a Reddit post from FMHY subreddit, then the tragedy occurred, then I joined to lemmy.world which is/was my main one because I pictured it like a good home, then lemmy.fmhy.net revived and I am with them too, but seems like they are in a bit of trouble with the server, finally now I am in lemm.ee, but only because I just wanted another backup, not because I searched for it especially (also it was mentioned in a comment about smaller instances and one user from here throw a joke to not join here because it sucks so that way the server would be more stable, so yeah, I joined).

To be clear I am not in search for yet another instance (that sounds like a good instance name to be fair), I just want to know how the deciding process is for you, is it just random? Is it because of personal tastes?

I couldn't care less about NSFW stuff, I don't search for it specifically, but my day won't be ruined if I see a tit.

I like gaming, tech, Linux, SBC gaming, emulation, macOS, Android stuff etc (yeah how original) should I look for an instance dedicated to that if I ever want to join yet another one? Because I see topics like this in almost any instance.

I read you lemmings!

EDIT: BTW the migration process has been easier for me thanks to LASIM, so I wouldn't be scared if I ever want/have to migrate again.

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 114 points 1 year ago (4 children)
[–] scarabic@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Why’d you start an instance?

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 44 points 1 year ago (4 children)

We started a regular fediverse instance because we wanted a space for queer and gender diverse folk to be safe, on something that wasn't Mastodon or Mastodon derived.

Once we had that running, we spun up a lemmy instance just to check it out, and it sat there basically only used by me, until Reddit Day came along, and our userbase went from 3 to 3000 in the space of a week. So now, our lemmy instance serves the same purpose as our main instance, which is to provide a safe space for our community, but focused on lemmy/the threadiverse

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[–] forcequit@hexbear.net 51 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Irreverent commentary, staunchly pro LGBT community, correct opinions hexbear-retro

[–] Nagarjuna@hexbear.net 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

correct opinions

Smh fucking liberal

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[–] ThereRisesARedStar@hexbear.net 46 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Come for the dirt bag leftism, stay for the aggressive anti-bigotry initiatives and correct takes.

[–] GaveUp@hexbear.net 44 points 1 year ago (25 children)

I was on lemmygrad at first but then they banned me for being a liberal so now I'm on hexbear

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[–] radiofreeval@hexbear.net 42 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Because we have a dope ass bear og-hex-bear

[–] dom@lemmy.ca 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] radiofreeval@hexbear.net 22 points 1 year ago

Join us, we have the best bear

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[–] gabe@literature.cafe 40 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm the admin of mine and also like books and writing

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[–] Grownbravy@hexbear.net 35 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I’ve been on Hexbear the entire time. It’s inclusive, yet has zero tolerance for reactionary attitudes.

Also since federation we actually have been complaining the quality of posts we see have gone down. You all lack an energy that made r/cth and hexbear such a breath of fresh air.

[–] lemann@lemmy.one 17 points 1 year ago (3 children)

From my perspective, most hexbear users seem to have a very noticeable but different energy entirely. Although I think that's mostly down to (most) of you guys moving from reddit to HB and then curating your own space there with all kinds of bells and whistles, communication styles, communities etc.

Aside from the (very high) usage of emotes, theres something about the posts that make it really noticeable

[–] Philosoraptor@hexbear.net 20 points 1 year ago

We're an old instance by lemmy standards, and have been really active for several years. We had a big boom after the reddit-logo CTH banning, and then just kind of got left to our own devices for a few years. The site developed a much more distinctive culture than most other places because of that--it feels more like an old message board from the 90s or 00s than a modern social media site. It's great.

[–] Grownbravy@hexbear.net 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think one thing that stands us out among other spaces on the internet is rejection of common referential humor, this space almost demands you develop your own thing, and enjoy our beautifully curated collection of emotes left-unity-4 Also our moderation is pretty top notch, and you get a sense it’s okay to fail here. It gives you a fearlessness. Like, we dont make small dick jokes here about people we dont like because we dont want to hurt anyone who does have a small dick in the community, also because it reinforces bs masculinity tropes. So this means we have to approach from new angles and this limitation fosters a creativity in us. And I think you can have this too, with enough time.

We dont all like lazy humor or really cheap shots, and cherish bits and running jokes with each other. Have you seen our owl? It’s very dirty.

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[–] uralsolo@hexbear.net 35 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Came to Hexbear because the CTH subreddit was kill and I really hate trying to follow a super active Discord, then TC69 lead the purge of the rightists and it became so good that basically no other website scratches my social media itch anymore. Reddit's still useful since there's so much archived content on places like /r/linux but that's the only reason I go there anymore, Lemmy as a whole seems pretty cool though.

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[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 34 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I started with Lemmy.world but then moved to Lemmy.nz because it was faster.

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[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

i joined chacha as a lifeboat years ago when the CTH reddit got banned and stayed as it became Ursus hexagonalis. the lack of ads, the memes, irreverence for institutions combined with respect for humans, and the absolute god-tier emoji selection is what keeps me here.
meow-fiesta

also, the megathread topics are very interesting/informative as a People's History, since many of the stories come from the "periphery" for all my world systems nerds out there. living in the imperial core, the constant cacophony of cultural outputs and hegemonic discourses, i appreciate any channel that connects me with post-colonial narratives, critical theory, etc.

glasses-on fanon sankara-salute

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[–] Outdoor_Catgirl@hexbear.net 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Been here on Chapo chat, now hexbear since the beginning. Joined before federation was even a thing. Only instance with mandatory pronouns, one of a few with good political takes.

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[–] charonn0@startrek.website 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I followed the Daystrom Institute community from reddit to startrek.website.

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[–] Tomboys_are_Cute@hexbear.net 29 points 1 year ago (5 children)
[–] uralsolo@hexbear.net 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

john-brown shouldn't have stopped at Harper's Ferry

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[–] somename@hexbear.net 17 points 1 year ago

Back in my day we didn’t have these, β€œbears”.

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[–] DavyJones@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Piracy πŸ΄β€β˜ οΈ

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[–] skillissuer@discuss.tchncs.de 25 points 1 year ago (4 children)

moved there from lemmy.world because of downtime and also unclear, sloppy defederation policies. i've never seen a clear explanation why it took a month to defederate exploding heads (allowing their userbase to grow 3x) and week for rammy site, but hexbear gets defederated "preemptively". ???

also now i see beehaw content which is something i didn't expected, but it's cool

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[–] xilliah@beehaw.org 24 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Beehaw cuz I heard they had strong moderation and don't shy away from defederation. Also bees.

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[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 24 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just showed up one day. I'm pretty sure these fuckers kidnapped and brainwashed me into their weird cult. scared

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[–] Washburn@hexbear.net 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I was on r/chapotraphouse before we got banned from Reddit. I joined chapo.chat after it was made by old r/cth users, and chacha became hexbear.net like maybe a year later.

[–] guacamole@hexbear.net 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’ve just been here since CTH got binned.

I have no plans to look anywhere else. I think federation is a fad, and I won’t participate elsewhere.

[–] macabrett@hexbear.net 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You're currently participating elsewhere lol

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[–] Cantankerousnuts@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Shit just works. Except when it goes down. But mostly. Still, the name is fire.

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[–] Nagarjuna@hexbear.net 21 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Honestly, I liked that they followed electoral politics, helping me fulfill my sick, taboo desires.

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[–] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The shark, mostly.

Also because I'm on their Calckey instance too.

And this: blobcat, box

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[–] Naomikho@monyet.cc 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There's an instance for my country so I just joined that one.

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[–] ElHexo@hexbear.net 18 points 1 year ago
[–] OverfedRaccoon@lemm.ee 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Started on kbin.social and beehaw.org. Realized I liked Lemmy just a little more early on and stuck with Beehaw. But then they started to defederate from larger instances with open signups. So I joined lemmy.world to be part of the bigger picture. Then it got too big and people want to play the DDoS game, so now I've got this alt on lemm.ee as well. We'll see where it goes from here. πŸ˜‚

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[–] mp3@lemmy.ca 17 points 1 year ago

The server is hosted in my country, the TLD belongs to my country and the current admins seem chill and dedicated to make it work. Hopefully that's the recipe to it's longevity.

Once they add some donation method I'll gladly donate and if they need help I'll gladly offer my technical knowledge.

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