Depends on your age and whose house it is.
this post was submitted on 23 Apr 2025
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I've been in a similar situation. As another user already said, you should be direct about it. Pick a good time (when they are not doing it) and simply explain that they are loud and ask them to be more quiet.
If you still want to be subtle, maybe try knocking/hitting the wall between your rooms, this will probably be noticed if it's night, and they could realise that they're bothering you.
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If you look at this situation from an older mindset, i am above thirty, you would definitely tell them in a very direct and short conversation. Maybe even be playful about making them feel guilty, that’s what most people with more life experience would do.
Do you know if your dad has been snipped? If not, you had better move out if you are able to. Because otherwise you will end up being free child care in about a year ....
Loudly cheer them on and clap when they finish.
Direct and respectfully. Lot of absurd suggestions here even if the goal is to be humorous.
He will likely be very embarrassed. Just be concise and clear and move on.
Why be subtle? Just shout “jfc I can hear everything”
Quite literally everything, including the dirty talk.😭who knew a 48 yo man still has so much stamina
Omg I’m so sorry. It’s bad enough when it’s a roommate or the methed out neighbor I used to live by, I couldn’t even imagine that situation
Turn your radio or TV up. They will get the message that if they can hear you you can hear them.
High five every morning.
And at 11:05 PM every night
11:04
Give him a minute to clean up first
Just tell him respectfully, sometime.
As a parent, myself:
- I totally don't mind if my kids tell me they can hear me. I appreciate knowing our communication lines are open.
- I am still going to continue having (probably still loud) sex in the house. Unless my kids fully paying a roommate's share of the costs to run the home, they're still kids, not roommates.
- I'll probably buy the kid some nice noise suppressing audio headset as a shopping surprise, sometime soon.
This feels like malicious compliance to me. If I was your kid, I'd be pissed if you felt entitled to attempting to assert dominance like this.
This is how your kids start resenting you as they grow up. Consider treating them like they're a part of a family unit that respects boundaries instead of shoving a material possession their way to shut them up. Growing up feeling like an inconvenient burden fucks up a lot of kids in this world.
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Drown it out by blaring porn.
They absolutely know they can be heard. You just have to tell him that it isn't cool and that you don't want to hear it.
Ask if you can join.
Just cough when they finish. If they can hear you cough, bells will ring in their heads
Buy ear plugs.
Is their door shut at least?
Live stream it every time it happens .... play only small segement but then set up a Patreon and set up a premium section for full volume
Also ask your dad if he's willing to stream their activity and that everyone would get paid for it
Don't ask. Just drop some money infront of him and his girlfriend and just say "your cut." with no context
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"I like it in the ass too."