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I get it. There's some real jerks around here. Whether they're constantly argumentative, downright rude, always acting in bad faith, just plain trolls, overly opinionated on every subject, have the social skills of a Nausicaan, or whatever - the Fediverse is growing, and it's bound to attract toxicity in one way or another.

This post is mostly a PSA for anyone who's feeling like leaving because they're tired of dealing with things like that. I've been there several times myself, I know exactly how you feel, and I'm tired of seeing good people harassed off the platform.

Just remember that blocking is a very powerful way to stay in control of your experience. Be it a set of users, me specifically, a list of keywords, a whole community, or an entire instance: if it's causing you nothing but stress, hit that block button and see if that improves your experience here. Unlike the alien site, there is no limit to the number of entities you can block; you're in control.

Another thing to keep in mind is different instances have different vibes, and the experience can totally differ depending on the instance's moderation and federation policy.

In conclusion, your experience here can be what you make of it; don't be afraid to just block the parts that stress you out. You're not "creating an echo chamber" as everyone likes to say (often in bad faith) -- you're just taking care of yourself.

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[–] conicalscientist@lemmy.world -2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Block is useless on lemmy. They can still cause a nuisance. Just becuase you can't see it doesn't mean it's not there..

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[–] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 48 points 1 week ago (18 children)

Also, voyager lets you tag users which is a godsend.

If I notice someone who is unnecessarily rude, dodgy opinions, bigoted or something, I add a tag, and if I see it is constant repetitive behaviour, I’ll block them.

[–] donuts@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Thunder too, installed it specifically for user tags!

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I hope they bring that to Lemmy overall, it will make for a much better experience for everyone. Mobile is really hard to mod from.

[–] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

There is a voyager frontend on web. But I think it’s only a mobile view https://vger.app/posts/lemm.ee/all

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[–] donuts@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Would be a great selling point over centralized alternatives too. "take control of your own experience" and all that. Reddit will never be able to achieve that level

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Reddit Executive Suite (RES) was amazing for that. I've been gone so long that I'm not sure it works anymore.

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[–] StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I recently had someone I already had tagged as "racist" replying to me with some misogyny, clicked on his profile and found him defending the R slur. Because instances are smaller, it's actually feasible to message instance admins when there is someone like that too.

[–] ComfortablyDumb@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Okay I am gonna bite. What is the R slur?

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You can also track aggregate up and down votes per user! You're a solid +13 for me, you're cool.

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[–] haverholm@kbin.earth 26 points 1 week ago (5 children)

I'd add "report" to that advice. If somebody is outright being jerks, that is probably against your instance's rules — and if it isn't, there are plenty others to choose from.

Blocking helps you, but reporting people (or instances) that are just here to troll will help others.

[–] fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 1 week ago

I read all reports on my instance (i get reports on our users and from our users, too; so i see quite a lot) rest assured, all your reports actually do something.

[–] ptz@dubvee.org 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

True. If it's report-worthy, absolutely. But there are certainly accounts that aren't violating any rules but can still be a source of stress. Those are often the "rules lawyer" type who knows exactly how to stay right on the line without crossing it.

Counterpoint is that if that person is finally banned, they're 9 times out of 10 just going to spin up a new alt and start back up with the same shtick. If everyone just blocks them, they're just shouting into the wind wondering why no one's taking their bait. I dislike how Reddit had "shadow bans", but I can see how they would be effective when used surgically.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Temp bans (a couple of days), work too. If they're actually trolling, they usually won't come back. Then just temp ban the next alt if they do, repeat.

[–] ptz@dubvee.org 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Good to know, and yeah, kind of matches what I've observed. I tend to permaban outright trolls, but yeah, they usually spin up a new account and never come back to that, so it's probably overkill. I guess I just don't like leaving the door open for them to come back...just in case lol.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago

For me, I temp ban because it makes it more easy to do. I don't wrestle with whether or not I'm doing the right thing. Instead, I know it's only temp so no one was harmed if I make a mistake. It's more for me to take out the trolls early on.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 week ago

I agree with this 100%. The mods can't get rid of the bad guys if they don't know about them. There are very few mods for relatively big communities, help them out if you see something going bad. They might not agree with you, but it's still good practice if people aren't following the rules.

[–] catloaf@lemm.ee 5 points 1 week ago

Agreed. I report bad behavior where I see it. I've only blocked one person, becausen they took a downvote as a personal attack and started DMing me.

[–] donuts@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

You're very right. Blocking when they are being an asshole is just putting your head in the sand. It might feel petty but remember that others are probably also impacted by their shitty behaviour.

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 19 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I know for a fact I'm opinionated, and don't have problems sharing them.

Please, by all means, block me if you think seeing my comments is adversely affecting you. I'd rather be ignored by someone than make their day worse (unless they're actively trying to make others miserable, but that's a separate discussion)

The fediverse has definitely gotten a little less hostile after blocking a few things.

And remember you can jump ship to another instance at any time! I've hopped a few times but for now my instance is filling my needs without much drama that I am aware of.

[–] ptz@dubvee.org 6 points 1 week ago

I think it's less about having strong opinions and more with how those are expressed. But either way, you're here with a good attitude, and that's appreciated.

[–] gigachad@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 week ago

I quickly went over your comment history of the last 30 days and you have almost no downvotes. You are a wholesome person and I'm glad you are here!

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[–] ComfortablyDumb@lemmy.ca 13 points 1 week ago (13 children)

The biggest toxicity comes from the tank triad. I have blocked them and now it is peaceful.

[–] ptz@dubvee.org 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

That's like the "install uBlock Origin" first step as far as I'm concerned lol.

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[–] Corgana@startrek.website 12 points 1 week ago

Additional PSA to admins not running a "universal free speech" instance- if you see someone someone being obnoxious it's probably annoying your users just as much as is is you. Don't put the onus fully on users to curate their experience. The Fediverse needs our adults in the room!

[–] SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I’ve yet to block anyone here and the only one I had blocked on Reddit was Gallowboob.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 14 points 1 week ago

Well that's a name I haven't heard in a long time.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 10 points 1 week ago

Im a big believer in block. I think its better for people to peruse all and block communities they are uninterested in and you should totally block users you don't like. To me it should be like real life. Don't hang with folks you don't like. My hope for the fediverse is instances that only remove things to stay out of legal trouble and communities that only block things that are unrelated. I want all the big tools to be at the user level. Bottom up.

[–] Trashboat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago

That’s one of the benefits of the smaller community here too, the block button actually feels like it does something. If you’re frustrated by comments that add nothing to anything or are fishing for drama etc, a short commitment to blocking repeat offenders really improves things quickly

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