It happens more often than expected... π
Every time I see one of these types of memes I always just assume that the guy is just as clueless as in The Break Up movie lol
this post was submitted on 13 Jan 2025
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OP is a douche
girl bad
Certified boomer shit
The old ball and chain! Am I right?
Wife bad amirite fellas upvotes to the left <-
If you and your partner can't talk to each other like adults in a relationship ..... it won't be a relationship for very long.
Not true my shitty ass marriage of mutual animosity has lasted almost two decades. So... I got that going for me.
That's not a relationship .... that's Stockholm syndrome
I'd rather be single than have that. My sister has a weird couple as friends, they're always so hostile and sarcastic to each other, constantly arguing. Why anyone would stay willingly in a relationship like that is beyond me.
Codependency. Lots of people can't stand to be by themselves so they'd rather be in a terrible relationship than being alone.
A lot of people never had positive role models when it comes to sharing their feelings.
When I started dating my now wife, she would sometimes ignore me for a week if we got into a disagreement, just because she couldn't tell me what's bothering her and be real with her own emotions.
She's grown a lot since then and when there's inevitably a new argument we can resolve it very quickly now.
Communication is important, but it's something you have to learn.
Way to help her out yo. She is really lucky to have someone who cares enough to be that patient with her.
I wonder if she gets quiet because she's brought up the same, exact issue multiple times and she's tired of her concerns being invalidated and forgotten as "women, am I right?"
This can go both ways. She could be upset he's not a mind reader, or she could be upset that he doesn't give a fuck. A " Schrodinger's Douchebag" if you will.
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There's a relationship cheat code I use all the time. It usually stops everything in it's tracks and sets you on a much more positive path, especially if they're not used to you doing this. When you find yourself at that point in a conversation where you're about to shout something like "OH FFS! WHAT'S THE MATTER NOW?!" instead... you pause, look at them, tilt your head a bit, narrow your eyes thoughtfully and say as calmly as you can "What do you need?". No matter how mad they get after that you just keep asking that question until they respond to it. If you haven't done that before it may take them a while to even notice you asked that question. Just keep going. Oh also top tip... when they tell you what they need don't invalidate it. It's hard for a lot of people to directly tell you what they actually need. If they do then they're trusting you to listen. Breaking that trust will take you right back to square one.
What if you physically attacked by that person tho?
Then what they need is to no longer be in the relationship.
Well stop trying to make this relationship work, pack your bag and run. If you are in this situation i hope it will get better for you! good luck.
Thank you)
Then it's finally time to get the plate mail. Fool me once, you can't get fooled again.
You look them in the eye and kiss them tenderly. It might be their kink.
I've learned to ask "what's on your mind?" instead. It's less accusatory than assuming something is wrong.
Yeah, I've used "Talk to me, what's going on?"
Full-on witchcraft advice going on here, lads. Stay away.
Shh!
I get it! Wife bad! ROFLOL
Wait - I am muted on a conference call. Let me unmute to laugh.
Wife bad, amirite?
Yeah, uh, communication is an important part of a relationship. If your partner gets mad because you ask "what's wrong" then you might need to have a talk with them. If they refuse then it's probably time to walk away.
Sheβll get even madder if you try to defend yourself saying βI canβt read your mindββ¦
because that makes it too obvious you werenβt listening when she explicitly told you what was wrong.
because that makes it too obvious you werenβt listening ~~when~~ if she explicitly told you what was wrong.
If. Not saying it doesn't happen, but it's not common, especially not explicitly. And that's not really a male/female/etc thing, it's an everybody thing - people get upset and usually don't know exactly why. People experience delayed reactions to emotional triggers that happened days or weeks ago. People project past emotional reactions onto present interactions, usually not for any identifiable reason (this is not to belittle or invalidate the emotion, but just to point out that the connection is usually tenuous and vague).
Getting more angry when someone asks you why you seem upset is typically a defensive reaction - you don't know why you feel so upset right now, at least not for any specific reason you can express in the moment... so being asked why is putting pressure on you when you're already experiencing some anxiety, and the typical response is to try to deflect and defend against that pressure.
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I hope you one day realize that only a subset of possible partners are like this and that you can find more emotionally intelligent people if youβre willing to spend time and effort putting yourself out there. It will improve your life greatly in the long run
OK Boomer.
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