The lighter side of ADHD
my nd friend group has a protocol for this! if you think you already understand what the other person is saying, you just say “avocado”. then they either ask some questions to confirm or just say “ok but i wanna info dump anyways” and then it’s COLLABORATIVE info dumping!
That's pretty cool but requires a tight group of cognizant NDs.
i gotta lotta unconditional love for my homies lol
Congrats, I too have a solid group of ND friends all exploring their condition and we have similar mechanism to acknowledge communication issues and trying to make them more palatable for the group in an honest, fair and kind way that brings us all up and doesn’t shut us down. I am incredibly lucky and I love my bros unconditionally too.
Happy to hear you have a community like that too.
You guys are having conversations where someone gets to the point at the beginning?
I usually get a meandering barely tangential story that is supposed to be context but is irrelevant and gets in the way of communicating their simple point.
"snooggums, are you able to take off work tomorrow? I was walking the dog and ran into Cindy. You know Cindy, Bob's daughter? She went to Kansas State and majored in chemistry, but was never that into it. Anyway, so Cindy was talking about how they painted their house last year and the contractor wasn't someone you would want to work with because when she talked to them he said that he wasn't sure that the work was going well and he wanted to follow up to discuss the work with him. But then he said that it was ok and it all worked out. On the way back the dog had a limp, can you take her to the vet?"
Sorry, you have to picture a similar meandering explanation for something as that whole story has filled my brain for the morning.
snooggums, are you able to take off work tomorrow? I was ...
No.
There you go
Negative Ghostrider, doggo comes first!
Living with my new roommate, about 2/3 of the infodumps she gives me about random stuff I already know. I always want to stop it because it feels like a minute of wasted time, but I don’t want to dissuade them from sharing info.
I end up just repeating “She doesn’t know what I do and don’t know” and just agreeing with the information when she’s done.
People use so much fluff and crap filler talk...even emails I get, cherry pick information all over, cut the garbage out and a 4 paragraph email is 2 sentences.
Give information and facts and leave your stories and deep thought explanations out of it. It's useless and horribly inefficient
It's funny you say that. I'm actively working to add intro sentences to more of my emails to add "fluff". Asking how their weekend was, commenting about the weather, sharing a one-sentence story about an experience I've had, etc.
I'm trying to build connection with people and not come off as terse/abrupt. My wife calls me out for it all the time.
I can not nod any slower.
Then nod faster?
It’s even worse when they start to stutter or loose their train of thought.
It would be better if they never loosed their train of thought on you in the first place.
It sho aint easy neither