My parents failed me a lot. My childhood sucked, and because of that I go through life numb.

I couldn't even start to heal until I realized my parents are people. Flawed people. The first time my mom came to me for reassurance, I understood the insecure woman that was doing her best and putting up a strong front.

The time my dad opened up and almost apologized for what was so obviously the wrong thing, I saw a man who isn't unwilling to acknowledge his failings, he's fundamentally unable to recognize them.

There are no adults, we're all just children putting up a front. It makes you feel safe to think the people in control of us are competent... If you like how things are. Otherwise, it's like living under a cruel god

Understanding they're people doing the best they can makes you feel a hell of a lot less alone when things aren't good

Believing your parents are infallible is good for one thing - equating belief in authority with safety. It doesn't make them happier or better equipped to actually handle the world - it only makes them feel safe under very specific circumstances

Don't tell your children everything, but don't lie to them. You're responsible for teaching them how the world works - lie to them about your own competence, and they'll be crippled in understanding until they see through your lies

I think kids come to learn this on their own. But at the same time, normalizing being open about emotions is a good thing, to help promote an environment where saying "I'm okay, I'm just having a rough day today" is something that's just normal.

But there's a sense of security to parents being infallible that can be dangerous to break. I lost that feeling with my mother when I was five, in a pretty major way to be fair, and for the next few years I had nightmares about everyone I loved dying and I wouldn't be able to stop them. Kids are powerless to the world around them in a lot of ways, and rely on adults to protect them and teach them how to protect themselves. So by seeing your parents as able to get through anything, you have a sense of safety at home.

So basically, normalize small challenges and openings to not be perfect, but be trying your best. Allow being human. But make sure the kid knows that no matter what, you will make sure both you and them are okay. Normalize the bumps in the road, and always reaching the end alright.

Not the person above, but I think it's very important to teach that parents aren't infallible or all-knowing. Everyone makes mistakes, even the people we base ourselves off so much. Admitting mistakes and saying you're sorry to your kid when you're actually wrong can help build their humility

Besides, kids tend to repeat and emulate their parents' styles when they have their own kids

With the still-developing prefrontal, good luck.