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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
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Most normal issues in a relationship can be worked on, and sometimes it actually helps to ask strangers on the internet to bounce off thoughts, fears or misunderstandings and gain a different perspective.
I agree. The problem is that internet strangers don’t personally know anyone involved, so much vital information and context will be missing. This is leaving aside the vitriolic, judgmental nature of those kinds of online spaces. Personally, I would never take relationship advice from anyone except close friends and family.
I would actually prefer anonymous advice when I'm having issues in a relationship because typically when people gripe about their relationships they only talk about the bad things and they only talk to people that care about them.
This ends up making it so that the people you are talking to hear all the bad stuff about the other person, and that causes them to start to dislike that other person.
It's too easy to build negative feedback loops that can destroy relationships.
If talking to the internet isn't good and talking to your friends isn't good, then the only thing that's really valid and valuable left would be to talk to a relationship counselor, or a personal therapist, whose only goal is to help you achieve your goals in a way that is healthy for you.
I agree with your last paragraph. As for the rest - each to their own. But online relationship advice communities often have their own biases and groupthink, and strangers will frequently “fill in the blanks” with their own assumptions. The advice is rarely objective.
Yes, but a large number of strangers with different life experiences can help cancel out any one person's personal baggage.