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As a shut in with social anxiety and very introverted I'm wondering how to find friends now that I got better. Basically starting from zero since I know nobody in my city so I'm wondering if someone has some experience with finding friends as lonely anxious introvert and just how other people find friends.

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[–] CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world 31 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

She handed me a note with her number, and let me know I could always talk with her.

That is awesome. I wish men got this kind of support when they are showing distress in public.

edit: I should clarify, not the 'giving phone number' part, just some support. In my experience men who look like they are suffering in any way are just actively avoided.

[–] darkstar@sh.itjust.works 19 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Never really thought of that, but it's so true how men showing distress just get avoided or ignored....

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 4 points 3 weeks ago

Men are always expected to "man up" when dealing with any difficulty, especially emotional ones. Western social culture (values?) is a fucking mess

[–] ripcord@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago

Or actively ridiculed