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What was something you learned too late in life? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 23 hours ago by TheImpressiveX@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] Jonnyprophet@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago

When someone is abusive or hurtful to you, 90% of the time it's not your fault. It's that there is something wrong or something broken in them. They are malfunctioning and it's necessary to understand that.

The other 10%.... Well, own that and fix your mistake.

But a very large majority of the time, it's them being broken and wrong.