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Correct. I dismiss her feelings. We're just going in circles now. I dismiss her feelings, because they are something again that she needs to deal with, not me, not her audience. She said what she wanted to say, I say that she was wrong and vain to do so. Her simply "having feelings" does not make her suddenly perfect and right. She was wrong jump to conclusions that she was being erased. She was wrong to call out a fan who just made a poster and assume that they were doing it as a personal slight. She was petty for not just ignoring the thing and moving on with her life. Those are all of my feelings, does that make me right too? We can all have our own feelings, and we've evolved a bit into being allowed to express them. However the same adage applies, my freedom ends where my fist ends and your face begins. Same thing here. Her feelings are valid - internally. Making them public like this exposes her to criticism, which I now have a lot of. If she didn't want that criticism she was welcome to not say anything.
Being critical of someone does not remove their humanity.
"Being critical of someone does not remove their humanity"
I don't think anybody told you it did.
saying that someone's feelings are not valid?
that is dehumanizing.
"Those are all of my feelings, does that make me right too?"
you're still missing the point. it doesn't matter how right or wrong you were, your feelings are valid and should be respected, particularly if, instead of how you are characterizing Cynthia, she is nearly expressing how she feels so that people are aware of how erasing her makes her feel.
"Her feelings are valid - internally. Making them public like this exposes her to criticism"
criticizing her and trying to invalidate her experiences only dehumanizes you, not her.
her feelings are valid.
you don't like it, that's valid too.
but it does not invalidate her feelings just because you value her less than you value yourself.
The same selfish problem everyone else complaining about her merely expressing herself has.