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Edit: Alright, I have a good idea of the situation and how I am going to address it. I appreciate the respectful responses.

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[–] protist@mander.xyz 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

You say all the things you're doing to accommodate him, but you don't say anything about why you're doing those things. Then you say he's devaluing you and calling you "too sensitive"...why are you even still talking to this guy? What benefit does he add to your life? What you say you're doing is reminiscent of how someone acts in an abusive relationship

I'd recommend being your authentic self 24/7 around him. If he can't handle that, that's on him and is not for you to fix

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

OP is enabling this stuff by play-acting for his friend’s comfort