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Men, are you physically affectionate with other male friends? (eg, hugging, snuggling, playful wrestling, etc). If you aren't, do you wish it was more socially acceptable if it isn't in your culture? (pawb.social)

submitted 6 months ago by Wahots@pawb.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Ha! Glad I wasn't the only one. I fondly remember that about highschool too. My friends group was from all walks of life. Hugs every time!

I got called back by a staff guy once. "You've been hugging like lotsa girls. Have you seen our PDA policy?"

I was like "Bruh everybody hugs."

Guess we hadn't learned to be proper grown-up, repressed, judgemental shell-dwellers yet.

Society feels like a prison-zoo now: "Eyes down. Keep to yourself. Eye contact could start trouble."

And we're statistically the lonliest adult generations in history.

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 1 points 6 months ago

Yeah, I can't help but feel like social media, the loss of third spaces, and a lack of affection (physical or otherwise) between friends and family plays a part in people being so lonely. This post has been really interesting, and has run a far larger gamut of responses than I thought I'd get.

Everybody has physical contact between themselves and their dates/SOs. But I was really interested to hear about people's physical connections outside of just dating. Male-male platonic affection seems exceedlingly rare, so I was interested in hearing what it's like in people's everyday lives. :)