Following the spirit of spreading across the Fediverse (and because my main instance is down so many times, because diverse reasons) I'm intrigued about the joining instance process, because I honestly don't know what criteria to have in order to join another one if I ever want to do it.
That made me curious of how you decided to join?
I firstly join to lemmy.fmhy.ml thanks to Spez and a Reddit post from FMHY subreddit, then the tragedy occurred, then I joined to lemmy.world which is/was my main one because I pictured it like a good home, then lemmy.fmhy.net revived and I am with them too, but seems like they are in a bit of trouble with the server, finally now I am in lemm.ee, but only because I just wanted another backup, not because I searched for it especially (also it was mentioned in a comment about smaller instances and one user from here throw a joke to not join here because it sucks so that way the server would be more stable, so yeah, I joined).
To be clear I am not in search for yet another instance (that sounds like a good instance name to be fair), I just want to know how the deciding process is for you, is it just random? Is it because of personal tastes?
I couldn't care less about NSFW stuff, I don't search for it specifically, but my day won't be ruined if I see a tit.
I like gaming, tech, Linux, SBC gaming, emulation, macOS, Android stuff etc (yeah how original) should I look for an instance dedicated to that if I ever want to join yet another one? Because I see topics like this in almost any instance.
I read you lemmings!
EDIT: BTW the migration process has been easier for me thanks to LASIM, so I wouldn't be scared if I ever want/have to migrate again.
I looked at it, it seemed mostly vanilla, had good servers, didn't have defederation drama like lemmy.world, thought it's cool.
I'd be open to move to a "leftist" lemmy instance, but as a staunch anarchist I'm not really compatible with lemmygrad or hexbear.
I'm an anarchist, and have been on Hexbear since the beginning. We're explicitly non-sectarian, and that's enforced. The left unity is actually part of what keeps me here. Folks are actually incredibly nice--it's one of the most positive and friendly online spaces I've been a part of in decades.
I went to the Anarchism community, which was completely inactive, except for one post with 200 comments, all of which were statists making fun of us. After that I never looked at it again.
There are comms that are less active (that's one of them) and some good-natured ribbing, but I've never encountered any genuine hostility and there are lots of prominent anarchist posters. The site takes left unity very seriously; it's one of the things that sets us apart from Lemmygrad, which is also great but very explicitly ML.
Like I said I didn't dig very deep into the site. I searched for the anarchist community, saw that it was almost completely dead except for this one post with hundreds of comments: https://hexbear.net/post/272574 And I saw that all of the comments were belittling and/or making fun of anarchists. So I left.
Are anarchists part of the moderation team, or is it all run by MLs that are just benevolent with us like most "left unity" subreddits?
We've definitely got some anarchist mods. I'm not sure about the admin team, but it's never been an issue. The "no sectarianism" rule is strongly enforced, and I've seen posts get removed (and users get banned) for breaking it; if a poster is ever making you feel unwelcome, tell the mods and they will 100% have a conversation about community norms (at least) with that person.
I completely get why you're nervous about it (I had the same reaction to Lemmygrad, for what it's worth, which is why I ended up on
), but it really is a very, very nice community of folks who are united in their love of dunking on liberals. You're welcome any time, comrade, whether as a member or just to hang out. 
I guess I'll give it a try. Thanks for being patient.