It is real. People have gotten mad at me for saying the 1 general (in my opinion in that case not-gendered) word instead of the slight pause and adding *innen. It's quite difficult for non-native speakers to get used to it.

Meanwhile, in Dutch language, many female doctors, bosses, directors etc all prefer to be spoken to with the general "male" word, because they prefer to be spoken to on an equal term as their male colleagues and for the difference not to be made. Witnessing Germanic languages growing apart a tad further I guess.

[–] Pyr_Pressure@lemmy.ca 7 points 10 months ago (3 children)

In English we have a few gendered professions (waiter/waitress, actor/actress) and I feel like most people.lean towards the "male" term as the general term as well. In general it's fine to call anyone an actor or a waiter but it would be weird to call a male actor an actress.

[–] brbposting@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

Actress seems to have fallen out of fashion, at least in personal experience.

Ngram only somewhat confirms:

[–] Teon@kbin.social 1 points 10 months ago

Have you watched Drag Race? Many actresses on this show.

[–] freebee@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago

"actrice" is one the few in dutch where it does still seem to matter to use the female version! Calling a female actress the male "acteur" would weird out a room i think. But if it's a group of both male and female people, and you use the general "acteurs" it would be fine i think and "actrices en acteurs" would be fine too. While in german, only the "schauspielerinnen und schauspieler" of "schauspieler*innen" would be okay and just saying "schauspieler" to a mixed group would be very frowned upon.

I get the idea, i hate the implementation. I think it would be easier for everyone to just cancel one word and call everyone the same, instead of doubling down on everything, it's doable in writing, but it's a real hassle in talking.

[–] menemen@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It is also quite difficult for native speakers. I have nothing against the general idea, but the ":" solution is just shit. Destroys the whole flow of the language. Takes me out of a conversation/speech/whatever every time somebody uses it.

[–] v4ld1z@lemmy.zip 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Language is a tool and is shaped and molded to be used by its bearers. You'll get used to it and it'll come natural to you. If it's important to you, you'll get there.

Btw: the slight pause you insert between the main noun and the gendered suffix is called a glottal stop. You do it without thinking about it for a bunch of words already. Consider "Spiegelei". Notice the pause between "Spiegel" and "Ei"? Apply this same principle whenever you want to gender appropriately and you're golden.

[–] menemen@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

No one says Spiegel...Ei. if I say Kund:innen like that everyone will just hear Kundinnen.

And I also don't think people will get used to it. When something new gets introduced into a language, the first natural thing is to adjust it to the speaking pattern. Which is not possible here as it is an explicit and intentional break of the speaking pattern. It will stay alien as it pretty much intents to stay alien.

Maybe children that are just learning to speak atm will, but current adults? Only those who want to really really convince themselves for ideological reasons.

[–] Miphera@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

As a German, I'm pretty sure they're right. Look into glottal stop, it's not really a long pause or anything. Think of the difference of the connection of "Spiegel" and "ei" in Spiegelei, and "Schreiner" and "ei" in Schreinerei. It's this short contraction that stops airflow and then releases it again, and it's present at the beginning of the "ei" in Spiegelei, but not in Schreinerei.

Here's also the IPA pronunciations from Wiktionary:

Spiegelei: [ˈʃpiːɡl̩ˌʔaɪ̯]

Schreinerei: [ʃʁaɪ̯nəˈʁaɪ̯]

ʔ is the symbol for the glottal stop: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glottal_stop

[–] v4ld1z@lemmy.zip 2 points 10 months ago

❤️

[–] menemen@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

As a native speaker I am 100% sure they are wrong. Or 100% of the people using that are doing it are doing it wrong.

[–] v4ld1z@lemmy.zip 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

As I said, it's barely noticeable but you do make a stop in between. You're just used to using the word in your daily vocabulary that you don't notice it. And as mentioned before, if you care enough, you'll do it - if you don't, you won't. A little close-minded if you ask me but that's just my two cents. :)

[–] menemen@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Yeah, and as I said the whole point of the ":" is to make a explipcitly noticable stop. Thus breaking the flow of the language. Otherwise it will just sund like the female version. This is not comparable.

[–] tobbue@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Sorry to hear that. For me it's the other way round. While I nearly always use the generic masculine form when speaking directly to others that never happened to me. Then again at work it's forbidden for me to gender in official postings since I did that once.

What I totally get is that online it's a totally different experience and no matter whether you gender or don't you may as well drop yourself into a vet of acid.

[–] freebee@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

it was in real life and the person calling me out was a hardcore feminist. So yeah, the construction is being used to call out non-native speakers on their so-called ideological bias against feminists, or so it felt :s It weirded me out and continues to do so. To me it feels more inclusive to call everyone, male, female or non-binary, by one and the same word, instead of focussing on ones reproductive organs while talking about their profession or hobby or whatever.

[–] neutron@thelemmy.club 2 points 10 months ago

Same in Spanish. We can say programadores (male gender plural form) to refer to a group of programmers, regardless of gender, as the standard says. However, in recent years it's become common to say programadores y programadoras (male plural and female plural) or programadoras y programadores (female plural and male plural). Using only the male gender causes many people to complain, or so I've heard.

[–] bier@feddit.nl 1 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Is "dokter" even a male word? What's the female version "dokterin","dokteres"?

[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.de 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The female version is Doktorin.

[–] bier@feddit.nl 1 points 10 months ago

I'm dutch and didn't even know this was a thing, is it something that is common in Belgium?

[–] InFerNo@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Dokteres enkel in dialect hier, maar in lokaal dialect maken we de lidwoorden ook mannelijk/vrouwelijk.

Groot verschil tussen "de die" (vrouwelijk) en "den die" (mannelijk) om iemand aan te wijzen bijvoorbeeld.

[–] freebee@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Dokteres.

https://nl.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/dokteres

Directrice. Bazin.

[–] bier@feddit.nl 2 points 10 months ago

Bedankt ik kende de term niet, maar blijkbaar ben ik (in Nederland) in de meerderheid

In onderzoek van het Centrum voor Leesonderzoek uit 2013 werd "dokteres" herkend door: 42 % van de Nederlanders; 85 % van de Vlamingen.[1]