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It's less about that the money gets spent and more about the outcome. The money is burned either way, but now maybe my kids will have it easier and can save their money. Maybe we can start to build more generational wealth, and their kids can have even better lives.
That's the idea we are sold, yes
Man, what the heck happened that made you so bitter about home ownership? I know it can be a pain at times, but it's one of the simplest and most reliable ways we have to build wealth and escape being wage slaves.
Why can't I criticize the very real issues about something without being against it entirely? I'm not...
I wish someone had properly warned me before I bought a house
It's not the criticism. It's the condescension and bitterness. Your case is an outlier; an anecdote, yet you're talking about it like it's the norm when the data shows it is not. So I asked what your story is, because that's the important part. What happened? What lesson can people learn from your situation that might help them avoid it themselves?
What is not an outlier, happens probably 90% of the time, is when a young person hastily buys a house it is a lot more to deal with and more expensive than they think it will be.
Most of the haters here seem pretty condescending and bitter to me, that's not what I'm trying to be. But then again, I probably wasted 500 hours of my life and $150,000 unnecessarily, which could've been avoided if I had just been more careful. Literally no one cautioned me, everyone pretty much encouraged me every step of the way. So yeah I guess I'm bitter, and that comes out when a bunch of strangers tell me I am an idiot who loves renting and hates owning because I dare to dissent
A lot of you are filling in all the gaps with shit you made up.
What happened was I set an arbitrarily low price for a house and stuck to it. The result is that I bought an old house that was pretty blah. Ended up spending a lot on it, and 5 years later when I decided to move it was a huge burden. No one wanted to pay a cent more than I had paid and I had to rent it. Had one good tenant and one super shitty tenant. It was a huge hassle. I lost money, even compared to if I had just rented those years.
Because I thought like a lot of you here (renting is ALWAYS bad), I fucked up. I should have been more careful.
What you are willing to write off as an outlier that never happens probably happens every single day. Buying a house is not magic. They are a lot of work. They can be very expensive.
Thanks for the explanation and context. Your opinion makes more sense now.
What do you want then? To have nothing? For your children to struggle like we do? I want mine to have a leg up, any advantage I can give them.
I'm going to save my money until the time is truly right, vs hurrying to buy because "anything is better than renting"
Also, I will definitely not be having any children