this post was submitted on 19 Jul 2023
393 points (97.6% liked)

Asklemmy

43755 readers
1258 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy πŸ”

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

  1. Open-ended question
  2. Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
  3. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
  4. Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
  5. An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~

founded 5 years ago
MODERATORS
 

My wife works in a restaurant, and the power-tripping manager has instituted a new policy where all shift changes must be approved by management. I think that is reasonable enough, but they're also asking the originally-scheduled employee why they are switching shifts, then approving or denying based on the answer.

For example, her coworker (Tom) wanted Monday afternoon off, and Harry agreed to cover the shift. The manager asked Tom why he wanted Harry to work for him, and Tom said, "I have a softball game." Manager denied the shift change because it was "unnecessary".

Is this legal? I feel like if you're able to find someone to cover your shift, you don't owe management any explanation why you need the time off. How should my wife approach this situation? Colorado, USA BTW.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] smokin_shinobi@lemmy.world 333 points 1 year ago (5 children)

β€œPersonal obligation.” Should be the only response anybody gives him going forward.

[–] Uniquitous@lemmy.one 112 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Bad case of anal glaucoma. I just can't see my ass going in to work today.

[–] AstralWeekends@lemm.ee 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A+, just got to figure out how to work this into conversation without getting HR involved now.

[–] Bdaman@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

Then use a more medical sounding term

I think my Rectal-Ocular Degeneration is flaring up.

[–] dicksinabag@lemmy.world 75 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Exactly. I'm a manager and literally never ask the reason unless it's longer than a week. They like to tell me anyway even though I've told them I don't care.

[–] fleabomber@lemm.ee 72 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Maybe they just really feel like they can open up to you, Dicksinabag.

[–] Established_Trial@lemm.ee 23 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I feel like I could open up to Discksinabag pretty easily

[–] Risk@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'd actually prefer it if they opened up to me.

[–] Established_Trial@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don’t know, that feels like a risk

[–] i_cant_sports@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wait, are we all talking about docking now?

[–] keeb420@kbin.social 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I thought we were talking about hamburgers and got hungry. I love dicksinabag

[–] dicksinabag@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

β€οΈπŸ†πŸŽ’

[–] Bdaman@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Isn’t that called sounding?

[–] dicksinabag@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Open on up, bro. (But seriously, I believe in authenticity as a manager. I don't hide anything from them unless I'm told explicitly not to share with them.)

[–] JDubbleu@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago

I can't imagine having a manager like in this post. I had to get a few hours coverage for my on call shift to pick my partner up from the hospital for an outpatient surgery. Manager didn't ask why I needed coverage but it just happened to come up. They immediately offered to get my entire shift moved without me even asking.

[–] SilentStorms@lemmy.fmhy.ml 11 points 1 year ago

Seriously don't understand managers like this. Also a manager, qnd I'll even find the coverage if someone needs a day off. I know how nerve wracking it is as an employee calling around asking someone to cover your shift, its a lot easier for me to send a mass text. Incidentally, the staff seem much more willing to pick up shifts this way.

[–] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 10 points 1 year ago

Could go into great detail about significant health issues, becoming more and more emotional as you go on, and tearfully asking "why would you make me talk about this? I wanted to keep this private! I haven't even told my family yet!".

[–] LazaroFilm@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

I’ll show you my medical record if you pay for it.

[–] DrQuint@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

And if the boss still refuses, have them put it in writting. So that you can slam them with the "Boss demanding medical information"