We can acknowledge that male abusers exist without minimizing the severity of female abusers.

You may not see it, but there is misogyny coded in what your say when you generalize women as less capable of being an abuser. Even if there are statistically more male abusers, it doesn't make female abusers less terrible.

The reason why so many male victims are unable to speak up is because of statements like this. When you delegitimize female abusers, you are delegitimizing the suffering of male victims. This is a reminder that the patriarchy hurts everyone.