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Sorry to read you are feeling this way.
We are all different; we don’t all respond the same way to the same things but I will share what works for me.
I try to channel that energy into something positive if I can - exercise that little bit harder, put more time and passion into my hobbies.
If that isn’t working I try to dissipate it; listening to heavy metal is my go to. The “heavier” it is the more therapeutic it becomes. Story-driven video games (and the odd first-person shooter or open world mess) can help too.
I have a young family and a family pet; I find that making time to play with them and doing activity with them helps, but even so I sometimes need time to myself to clear my head.
Oddly enough being at work helps too. By the time I’ve fixed someone else’s problems I realise that maybe mine can be fixed too.
I’ve never found that having a treat (food, drink, whatever) worked for me; I end up feeling guilty of the excess and empty afterwards - but I appreciate this works for some.
When all of the above fails - I phone a friend.
All of this is about making space to strip away the emotional burdens and perform a fair analysis of the situation. I’m very solution / results driven so I look for ways of moving forwards.
Take care out there.