Dating is different for gay people? Since when? I'm gay and dating is a neverending slog of trying to find one decent functional adult in a sea of jackasses. How is this different?

[–] GladiusB@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Really? I have heard differently. I mean it's true in the dating sense of searching for relationships. However if you are single I hear getting laid is waaaay easier. They just straight up ask and go. So I'm told. What the hell do I know?

[–] Vibi@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It's different in some ways. Most of my friends are gay and they have specific apps for specific things. It seems very straightforward to find people to hook up with, but that's different than dating and looking for a relationship. Just like most people, many have various issues most likely stemming from society being lame about sexuality and such. They'll find someone who seems entirely put together and then get slammed with issues relating to abandonment, insecurities about their masculinity, or crazy jealousy.... So pretty much normal stuff.

[–] AstridWipenaugh@lemmy.world 12 points 10 months ago (1 children)

That last part happened to my cousin. He dated a guy for a few years and everyone liked him a lot. After they got married, he let all the crazy out and became mentally and physically abusive. It apparently started pretty much immediately after marriage, but it took several years before anyone found out what was happening.

[–] RoquetteQueen@slrpnk.net 3 points 10 months ago

That's pretty standard for any abusive relationship. The abuser usually waits until they feel like their partner can't escape before they become awful.

[–] Elderos@lemmings.world 16 points 10 months ago

Yep, to the point where it is actually hard to meet with someone who is not immediately expecting sex.

[–] mstrk@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

However if you are single I hear getting laid is waaaay easier

It depends on the country you live in, really. I understand where you're coming from with this idea. In my home country, it appears that gay people are more open about their relationships than heterosexual people. It's a conservative country on this topic, but once I started traveling the world, I've come to learn that it's not the truth.

[–] Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This comment is so open ended... how is it not the truth? It's a comparison... so do gay people get laid less in other countries, or so straight people get laid more?

[–] mstrk@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago

Apologies, English is not my native language. If you get to see my reply eventually, it means that straight people have the same chances as gay people in less conservative countries. So by your own words, straight folks, men and woman, get laid more.

[–] Saneless@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago (6 children)

Does one person in the relationship take forever to get ready or for 2 men do they just decide to go out and 3 minutes later leave the house?

[–] floofloof@lemmy.ca 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Is it supposed to be the woman who takes a long time? Because I'm a guy and she's always waiting for me. Not proud of this, but these stereotypes really don't help.

[–] RoquetteQueen@slrpnk.net 3 points 10 months ago

I'm always waiting for my husband, too. Drives me nuts.

[–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It has to depend, I know some men take a long time to get ready too

[–] Lemonparty@lemm.ee 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I lived with gay roommates (three gay men, two were a couple one was single), and the single one took AGES to get ready. I'm talking he'd shower at 730, we'd ask what he was doing and he'd say he had a date then leave the house at fucking 930.

He didn't wear make up or anything I have legitimately no fucking clue what he could've been doing for so long. The couple on the other hand, one took longer than the other but honestly they were both pretty fast get ready-ers.

[–] Iapar@feddit.de 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

He was jacking off so that he can longer. Oldest trick in the bock.

[–] Lemonparty@lemm.ee 3 points 10 months ago

If he took two hours to jack off, I shudder to think how long that made him last after 😱

[–] FluffyPotato@lemm.ee 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Fuck that stereotype. I'm in a lesbian relationship and getting ready for either of us is putting on pants and possibly a jacket.

[–] beefcat@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

yes but we all know most lesbians are just two men in a trenchcoat

[–] 9thSun@midwest.social 2 points 10 months ago

I've never seen a fact this hard in my entire life

[–] nixcamic@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago

I have 6 teenage boys. Three of them are women by this definition.

[–] Naz@sh.itjust.works 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I was in a gay relationship once and at like 9:00 at night my boyfriend turns to me and goes: "Do you want wings?!?"

I'm a bit shocked by the random question but go: "Hell yeah!" We jumped into the car, went to the wings place which closes at 9:30 mind you, got there at around 9:16, including driving. Like 9:27-9:45-ish, we're back and have a huge plate of wings and sides, just eating like animals

So uh, it varies, but the possibility is definitely there for two men to have a tactical romantic excursion in record time XD

[–] ShunkW@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Showing up 14 minutes to close with a large order is evil.

[–] AlpacaChariot@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Sounds like they were gone before closing time

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Does one of them demand from the other to clean shave their entire body?

[–] Smoogs@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago

Ngl I can barely stand a hairy back. Pun intended