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[–] Decoy321@lemmy.world 23 points 11 months ago (1 children)

How about if we rephrase it as "don't do things that someone else can victimize you for." Can you see how there can be a correlation with victim blaming?

The contextual difference here is that the woman in question was dancing at a private party. That is something that's okay to be comfortable with, even if a friend is recording. Thus, the problem here isn't that she shouldn't have done that, but that others victimized her over it.

That's why Rally's advice is getting criticized. It's getting correlated with "don't do things you enjoy in private with your friends because someone terrible might do terrible things to you." This is genuinely terrible advice.

[–] Kase@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Agreed. If you read this story and your first thought is 'she shouldn't have been dancing on camera in the first place', that's victim blaming.

[–] Rally@lemmy.world 0 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I never thought that or said that. You made a large jump there. All I did was to share guidence i provided to my family. It's not my place to blame anyone here.

[–] Kase@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago
[–] Caradoc879@lemmy.world 0 points 11 months ago (2 children)

But you did place blame. Are you really that fucking daft?

[–] CarlsIII@kbin.social 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

He at least thinks we are

[–] Rally@lemmy.world 0 points 11 months ago

I guess we can disagree. There was no blame, only the advice I gave to my family.