prenupbutter

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[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I was a dumb kid, went for the same consistency in the grossest way possible, which was putting spoonfuls in my mouth, spitting it back into the bowl and mixing it in. One day an older friend saw that, horrified. Told me to just stir the ice cream for a while instead and I stopped with the saliva ice cream shenanigans from then on.

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 1 points 9 months ago

You're secretly asian. We dip all kinds of fruit (usually tart ones) into chili salt. Unripe mangoes and guava are my faves.

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Ya I have Nvidia, but afaik the reason suspend on idle doesn't work is because there's nothing sending idle hints to systemd and I haven't found any resources on how to do that. I still have so much to learn ;__;

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

Oh my god there's a chart? Lmaooo

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Using bspwm because I wanted even more keyboard shortcuts to remember 🥴

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago (6 children)

It's a great distro

I'll agree once I can figure out how to at least get my laptop suspend on idle. Why are there no clear docs on it???

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago (4 children)

Cut a newbie some slack! No one told me I had to use Arch as my first distro, I started with Ubuntu. Couldn't a 5 o'clock shadow suffice as a start?

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago

Curious, how do you personally treat yoself? I could use ideas!

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago

A bubble bath would be soooo nice... if only I had a bathtub! I don't even have hot water 🥲

And no, it's not at all creepy to be an open ear to a stranger, we should all practice being kind to one another. If chatGPT is a bust I may well hit you up ;)

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I feel so silly because a friend of mine showed concern early on, saying it's easy for guys who are avoidant/emotionally unavailable to love-bomb you at the beginning and mean it, but then they get freaked out and run. I was like "yeah yeah sure" thinking it'd either not happen, or that I'd be able to handle it when it did. Clearly, I could not handle it haha.

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago

That's a great perspective and needed reality check. It's funny how even when you're aware you're in the honeymoon phase you can get so lost in it. But yeah, I hadn't even considered your first point and now you've given me more to consider. I truly appreciate it.

[–] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

Wow, your story made me really sad for you, what a terrible way to be dumped. Thank you for sharing, it helps a lot to hear someone else's experience and remember that I'm not alone. Your comment really moved me I almost started crying again haha. Thank you for being so kind.

 

I fell for someone who lives in a different country. We met while he was passing through mine, and then he later changed some of his travel plans to come back and see me again.

We saw each other every single day for over a month, he met most of my friends, we went on trips together and overall he was very loving and did all kinds of things that made me feel like we had something that could last beyond a fling. He told me he would be back again.

His feelings changed not long after he went back home, and he only admitted it to me once I confronted him after noticing him become more and more distant over 2 months. He said he found it hard to stay emotionally invested in someone so far away.

I get that long distance is hard and that people's feelings change. I just didn't think he'd lose feelings for me so easily. It hurts more than ending a relationship that has slowly burned out over time, because I just can't make sense of how quickly this happened. And I think a large part of why I got so attached is because I very rarely meet guys I'm genuinely interested in, let alone ones that treat me well.

Have any of you gone through something similar? If so, how did you cope with it? Was there anything that made it easier to accept, or do I just need to let time do its thing? I have a bunch of important things to finish this week and have already lost so much time crying lol.

 
 
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