YarrMatey

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[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I thought google messages does have end to end encryption? It's the one thing I am jealous about so I stick with Molly, SimpleX, etc. instead and avoid SMS as much as possible.

https://support.google.com/messages/answer/10252671?hl=en

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

On kbin all votes are public and you can view who down voted or upvoted someone as if it was like Facebook. I've seen people try to call out others for down voting something on there. Mbin is a fork and has the same functionality.

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

That's weird, I use summit and it renders like the screenshot. I don't use connect but maybe yours needs to be updated. Only one or maybe two apps had a 10 originally before the post but it has been updated since then to reflect changes devs have made after the post.

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 month ago

I don't consider free with ads or buy for no ads on the same level as the rest of the free Lemmy apps. I hate ads, won't tolerate them.

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (6 children)

The best apps for rendering are: Alexandrite, Connect, Jerboa, Photon, Quiblr, Summit, and Voyager. Sync and Boost are pretty poor at it despite being paid apps.

https://lemmy.world/post/18159531

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm female and bi and it is definitely noticeable when someone is staring at my chest and it is very uncomfortable. When I was younger there were certain guys that rarely looked me in my face and were just looking at my chest the whole time. I asked other girls about it and they agreed they too felt them gazing at their chests and it was really uncomfortable and off-putting for them as well. If you wanna help then tell them discreetly to tighten their bra straps. Otherwise I don't find it acceptable to stare at a woman's chest. A glance maybe but you should really be looking at their faces. People are not meat or eye candy, don't objectify them, just remember the person they are inside. There may be women ok with it and like flaunting it but that's not been my personal experience.

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I had an IUD (Mirena) and never gave birth and it was the worst pain I've ever experienced. I was yelling and crying in pain during/after insertion. Removal was easier but still pretty damn painful. I took some ibuprofen before hand and it did not really help.

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I hate that simplex is like this.

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm not going to down vote you lol, I haven't down voted anyone in this thread. There is no wrong answer or response. I do feel bad for her though, pencils are sharp even when unsharpened, I can't imagine that felt good. Did she wrap it in a condom? How old was she?

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Girl same, it took me a couple of guys and years before I had an orgasm. Luckily my current partner is very patient with me and I hope you find someone like that too. I feel like a lot of maybe younger or inexperienced guys just jackhammer a girl and then they're done ugh. Sorry for misunderstanding you earlier, looks like we had much more in common than I thought! Judging by the down votes it looks like I said something offensive, and I just wanted to say sorry about that. This is just my experience.

I think I did ask about that and since she doesn't have trouble inserting the speculum she said I didn't have it. I use menstrual cups with lube just fine, although I do use a cup on the softer side.

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

You're probably right, I never used lube with tampons but if I did it might not have hurt so bad. I did feel it was less tight putting them in once my virginity was gone but it still felt like tearing using them so maybe that was just me. Just now I tried searching but all I got was tampons don't take your virginity which I already knew and was not trying to imply. I use cups now with lube and it is much better than tampons for me.

Edit:

Will tampons hurt with endometriosis?

They can, but the tampon pain associated with endometriosis tends to be similar to endometriosis dyspareunia, a term used to describe pain during sex. With endometriosis, a tampon can cause a heavy pain felt deep in the abdomen, or cramping.

Sometimes the tampon pain related to endometriosis also can cause your vaginal muscles to tense, causing a sharp pain at the entrance of the vagina when inserting or removing a tampon.

TINA tip: If you have endometriosis, speak with your doctor about which options for managing your period might be most comfortable. Speak up about how you’re feeling so your doctor can help you determine which type of pain relief options might work for you.

TIL I may have had endometriosis this whole time. I was wondering how I was using tampons wrong when I have heavy flows that need tampon+pad to manage.

https://www.tinahealthcare.com/blogs/learn/tampons-cause-pain-or-discomfort

[–] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago (3 children)

It feels like nothing but rubbing for me? Idk. But I definitely recommend the book. I'm not saying those 80% hate penetration, but it isn't a big part. I know when I talked to my gyno about painful sex, she said use plenty of lube and orgasm before penetration. Very good advice in case anyone needs it.

I'm glad you found relief from the religious oppression. We need less shaming and better sex ed for everyone. Thanks for your wishes, I wish you the same!

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