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What is the best facebook fediverse platform. I want something that is more private which you connect with friends and family.

I know of Frendica and there is Minds which is not yet federated but is working on becoming federated.

Could lemmy be used as a private self hosted forum?

And could lemmy be used as a private forum were only registered users and whitelisted users can view, post and comment on the instance. This way you can have a private instance which only paid users of your group or club can join like many membership website forums have.