me_irl

ok but how?

Or do the opposite, immersion therapy.

Pour superglue over yourself and glomp the next person you see. After two weeks, you'll be used to being around other people

Bob, I've told you, the bank job was a one-time thing. We got away scot-free. Stop trying to fuck it all up by getting the gang together for "just one more time".

Bob, crying in the corner: im just so lonely

me too thanks

real

It no longer working is basically the entire reason I'm here now. I paid $2 for "rif golden platinum" while sitting in an A&W back in 2013 and absolutely got my money's worth from that purchase. The mobile Reddit experience is such utter misery in comparison it baffles me that anyone uses it at all.

me too thanks

I miss rif too

I am still using it. Thanks to revanced.

You're a social primate with social anxiety?

Does anybody have a real answer?

the answer is: probably not. this might be very personal and then the only one who "could" have a real answer, is the one asking for one.

but ideas do exist

what if you want social interaction but what "they" call social interaction actually is not what you want?

maybe you don't want group interaction but instead a single friend to go out and maybe do stupid harmless stuff or watch sth instead?

groups always are different, also people behave different when in groups.

maybe one just choosed the wrong ones to interact with. society has lots of subgroups, some even toxic by their own wish. maybe better choose more wisely.

maybe learn to cope with your personality not beeing ready yet to be part of a group by adding yourself to it slowly?

maybe these are answers, but if they are real ones, who knows?

There's a social spectrum. There are varying levels of asocial- one being demisocial. Demisocial people want interaction, but normally with a close few people that they have a strong bond with. Put someone who is on the asocial side in a large group and they'll get overstimulated and overwhelmed. It takes time to figure out your social tolerance and what pushes you over the edge. Some people will encourage asocial people to desensitize themselves by forcing themselves into social situations, but that can be extremely unhealthy for them and lead to burnout. There's nothing wrong with anyone who doesn't like huge social settings... Some people just don't like accommodating others so they make it a you problem. Finding your people can be hard and lonely, but it's far more fulfilling when you do.

Here's another answer!

a) we want to be social

It's in our nature to want to be around other people. It helps us feel safe, create a sense of belonging, is amusing, and provides us with rich experiences that are hard or not possible to achieve on our own. Lots of simple reasons why people want to hang out.

b) but we have an ego

But everyone is walking about with a very intimate/personal concept of self that instructs them how to behave, how to feel, how to respond. Our feelings and thoughts in each moment are shaped by our sense of identity. Our identity isn't actually a fixed, immutable thing. It is constantly shifting, working to conform or be different or just prevent itself from collapsing entirely. The self responds to the environment the same way out bodies do.

c) being social

So we're home alone and wanting some company because we're feeling lonely, but then we arrange ourselves to spend time with others and suddenly our self is on high alert because it's being observed by others. Am I being genuine? Do people like me? Am I talking enough, or too much? Do I look ok? Did I wear the right clothes? Can I share this opinion? What should I say about that? Every conscious thought and unconscious pattern is at play, pulling and poking your sense of self and it can be disorientating and scary.

Or have trauma

You can't always choose. Even when they do have a choice people can still get anxious around friends.