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I've been complimented on my voice before, and those aren't weird compliments. But delivery is important. I had a coworker tell me, "Your voice is great!" And of course I'm thankful. But then deadpan, she goes, "You should do ASMR so I can listen to it."
Now that was a weird compliment.
I was once walking past a gay bar with a buddy of mine. A drunk guy stumbled out, looked us both up and down and yelled "Phwoar! That's a porno I wanna watch!".
It was the middle of summer and I was jogging the last leg of a 20km lake circuit with my shirt off, sweating like crazy, and a guy drove past, leaned out the window, and yelled "My wife likes what she sees!"
Not especially weird compliment just weird that it came from the husband.
Randomly stopped by a random guy as I was walked off the sky train "uhhh excuse me could you be a model for us?"
Hands me a business card etc. I'm nothin special lol. I'm also a dude.
"Your dogs are beautiful."
Uh... Thanks? Is that a compliment for me or the dogs? 🤨 Honestly don't know how to respond or react to this one and it makes me feel weird.
I think people want to share their feelings about your dogs because they reasonably think you feel the same and you'll be glad to meet someone who shares your affection. So just give them a glimpse into your love for your dogs if you feel like it. Maybe they'd like to get friendly with your dogs and this is their opener. Also, you've probably chosen your dogs, the choise reflects some little aspect of your personality. You can be proud of it, so you can be complimented on it.
"You have perfect teeth." I don't, which is why I find it weird. One is cracked and another is chipped. Two separate women 2 years apart have told me that several times.
Several men have told me I have a great smile. I'm a cis-straight man. One of them was a martial arts instructor that looked like the Rock. He told me this in front of my girlfriend and the whole class. He then pointed it out a few times throughout the weekend-long workshop.
One guy that I had never met came up to me and told me I was a good dancer. He was with his girl.
I'm really confused about the last two.
Beauty doesn't have to be mainstream perfect. Perhaps your slight teeth imperfections make your smile especially attractive 😉
I know there have to have been even weirder ones I got over the years, but what stuck with me is when a nurse in a ~~psych ward~~ psychiatric clinic called me (a patient) being like a "weird, confused professor" as a genuine compliment.
Funny story I actually am a psych nurse and "manic professor" isn't the most dobbed on the bingo card but its definitely a classic and waaay better than the more common "neo-nazi wife-beater pretending they're depressed to try and duck their charges."
My better example was the dude that remembered all the weird and vaguely menacing sexual shit he said to me while manic and was mortified and I was like,"dude I worked with actual psychotic rapists for like two years, you ain't shit by comparison, trust me" and he was like "oh thank God" but the patient who only heard that last half of my sentence was like "What. The. Fuck." And it wasn't like I could explain it without illicitly putting the dude on blast.
Honestly I actually believe he was sorry (most who apologize for the weird sex shit aren't) for the exact same reason I wasn't worried about it when he was doing it; he really just hit me as young, dumb, and scared and trying to act bigger than he was. Idk I've just got a good feel for that kind of thing and even when he was doing it I was just like "...nice try kid. You are gonna take a nap now tho." He was actually really relieved for me to be like "no I've met actual horrible people you're not even close LOL"
A girl sidled up to me at college when I was About 18 and just said “you have beautiful veins”
My college had a very strong nursing program, and that was a surprisingly common compliment.
Do/did you do a lot of cardio? Runners, bikers, swimmers, etc have the BEST veins (you need em)! - was phlebotomist, now am nurse.
One particular winter I frequently wore a long coat and had longer wavy-ish hair. Two different people (separate occasions) said that I looked like Sam Kinison, each time with a disclaimer that I looked better than he did.
A gril I had a few hookuos with broke it off. Essentially her text said I was funnier than her and she wanted to be the funny one.
Id like to believe it. But if not it was still such a good text with 0 recorse.
I saved it for future bailouts.
I was told my calves were absolutely shredded by an attractive woman. I'll carry that to my grave.
At a gas station, go in to grab some of my favorite brand of chewing gum (Original flavor Trident), and the clerk said "You look like you should be famous." I thanked him, and agreed.
At the grocery store, a cashier woman told me I look like Justin Timberlake. I've gotten that one a few times, and I take it as a compliment.
and one last one, I was on vacation with my girlfriend at the time, and we found this bar in South Carolina that had a big dancefloor, a great DJ, and almost nobody dancing. I love dancing, so I went out and started grooving to the music, just slipping between random dance moves, having fun because there was like nobody there to judge me. After dancing for a while, I'm about to go back to my waiting GF, when a pair stop me, a guy and gal. They said I was a great dancer, and asked what dancing school I attended? I told them I've never gone to a dancing school, I just do what feels natural.
That last one is definitely my favorite, though 😊
Someone told me that I talk like Christian Slater. I wasn't sure if that was a compliment or not, but Slater is pretty cool, so I said thank you.
I have been complimented on my voice, apparantly I speak quite calmly and clearly.
That I have nice eye sockets
