Just assume everybody is 12 and you'll be good.
this post was submitted on 02 Jul 2024
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Unable to understand and/or admit that both sides can be bad. It's ok to admit the "your team" did some nasty shit and it doesn't in any way cancel out what the other "team" did.
Also, Winning an argument doesn't in any way make you a winner. Actually, an argument that someone "won" often doesn't lead to a change for the better or even make anyone convinced that your arguments were valid.
I wish there were dead giveaways. It would be helpful to know if I'm talking to a teen or an adult cuz my attitude in delivering how wrong they were would definitely change. Certainly i can recall some truly boneheaded beliefs i have discarded through the decades so im more forgiving if i know they're young.
On the other hand if they're pretending to be an adult they ostensibly want to have their opinions considered on equal terms, as peers; basically to not be preached to. If that's their goal then isnt it kinda the point to treat their ideas as if they were offered by one? If we think of it like that, maybe it's not super important to know someone's age. It's definitely helpful of course to know who youre dealing with but the downside of anonymity is also its upside. ideas are ideas no matter how old the brain is what thinks em.
They don't remember what life was like before Google.
The thing with a lot of the methods mentioned is that I've seen both teens that are more mature than me, and people in their thirties that should probably have their internet privileges revoked.
Why does he look so much like Pete Davidson
the only dead giveaway is if they get doxxed